Entitled And Abusive Mom's Hope Of Getting Support From Her Kids' Father Gets Dashed As She Gets Referred To The Lawyer

Some people treat family like a free-for-all, and OP’s mom is the definition of that. This story starts with child support, but it turns into a years-long mess where OP’s dad keeps trying to get basic fairness while the mom tries to control the narrative at every turn.

OP’s mom allegedly blew through money on pills and beer, then decided she was “due” to claim OP for support. She didn’t just argue, she showed up in court drunk, claimed OP wasn’t her father’s child, and then reportedly slept with someone else to make it a bigger fight. When the DNA test proved OP was her dad’s child, she still escalated, berating him in front of the judge and piling on restraining orders against his side.

By the time the courts tried visitation again and again, OP and her older sister had learned the hard way that this wasn’t about “equal time,” it was about power.

The headline

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OP's mom spent all of her money on pills and beer

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"It's MY turn to claim OP this year for child support"

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That’s when the “It’s MY turn to claim OP this year” claim hits different, because the money and the drinking were already part of the pattern.

The Psychological Impact of Manipulation

This scenario highlights the detrimental effects of manipulation within family dynamics, particularly when one parent exerts control over shared responsibilities.

Research from family psychology indicates that such patterns can lead to significant emotional distress for all involved, especially children.

Understanding these dynamics is key to addressing the underlying issues effectively.

"It was only in place when we switched days with OP so we could have equal time"

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"BE THANKFUL I'M GIVING YOU ANOTHER CHANCE AT PAYING ME"

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This isn't like the crazy EPs you find here on the site

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The court day where OP’s mom allegedly appeared drunk, then tried to deny OP’s paternity, is the moment the whole situation flipped from paperwork to damage.

Studies show that individuals who manipulate others may do so as a way to cope with their fears of inadequacy or abandonment.

Recognizing these motivations can help families address the root causes of conflict.

The OP and her older sister finally learned how to stand up to her

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The OP revealed more details in the comments section

The courts tried REALLY hard to get me with my mother, but my mom... 1) Appeared in court drunk 2) Claimed I wasn't my father's child and slept with another guy to get me (We did a DNA test; I'm 99.999999999999% my father's child.) 3) Berated my father in front of the judge 4) Had restraining orders against her from my father's side of the family for many different reasons 5) The accident that got me to my dad 6) The emotional abuse she inflicted on meNot to mention a bunch more. They tried court visitations, and that got messed up, and after so many tries, they gave up!

This also echoes the fight over splitting family expenses equally while dad was financially struggling, in Should I Split Family Expenses Equally Despite Dads Financial Struggles?.

Let's have the comments...

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This isn't as intense as what this Redditor can see

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After the DNA test came back and she still berated OP’s dad in front of the judge, the “equal time” talk turned into another tactic for control.

Research emphasizes that families who communicate their needs and limitations effectively tend to have healthier dynamics.

In this case, setting boundaries can help prevent manipulative behaviors from continuing and foster a more respectful environment.

Sounds like she's a waste

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This Redditor hopes the OP doesn't see her

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That would be better

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Even with court visitations getting attempted and messed up, OP and her older sister finally learned what standing up looks like when the system keeps failing them.

Encouraging open discussions about expectations can help all family members feel heard and respected.

By prioritizing boundary-setting, families can enhance their overall emotional health.

Every state's child support rules permit payments to stop once the child reaches the age of majority. The legal age set by state law at which a person is no longer considered a minor and is capable of making certain legal decisions on their own behalf is known as the "age of majority".

OP seeks to confront her mom when she reaches that age, and you can share your opinions about this story in the comments section below.

Family therapy can also be beneficial for families dealing with manipulation issues.

Ultimately, the narrative surrounding the entitled and abusive mother highlights the pervasive issue of manipulation in family dynamics, which can profoundly impact emotional well-being. The mother's failed attempt to secure support from her children's father illustrates how her behavior not only alienates her from her kids but also complicates the custody process.

Establishing firm boundaries and fostering open lines of communication are essential steps in navigating such turbulent relationships. In this case, the referral to a lawyer suggests a shift towards a more structured approach, which may benefit the children by ensuring their needs are prioritized over the toxic behaviors of one parent.

By focusing on these critical elements, families embroiled in conflict can work towards a healthier and more supportive environment for all parties involved, particularly for the children caught in the middle.

The family never got “equal time,” it got one long fight over who had the right to be believed.

For more child-support conflict, see what happened when OP asked in-laws for medical bills help.