Property Owner Builds Fence To Keep Out Entitled Kids Who Make Inappropriate Comments When She's Using Her Pool

A 28-year-old woman refused to let the next-door kids treat her pool like a neighborhood amenity, and honestly, it’s not as petty as it sounds. She tried to keep things friendly at first, even agreeing the kids could use the pool “occasionally.” But the moment the comments started getting inappropriate, that friendly deal turned into a boundary fight.

Here’s the complicated part, her neighbors were nice at first, then slowly shifted from “can they swim?” to “it’s our pool,” even while the kids were abusing the privilege. The mom pushed back hard when she mentioned putting up a fence, and the OP snapped after hearing what she and her friends had been dealing with when the kids showed up without permission.

So she built a fence for privacy, to stop the kids from getting in, and because she’s planning to get a dog that needs to stay on her property.

The OP wonders if placing a fence that prevents access to her pool makes her an a-hole.

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She tells the community how she got the property.

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Research indicates that individuals often feel entitled to shared spaces, leading to conflicts over personal boundaries.

Unfortunately, she has entitled neighbors next door.

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They were nice at first.

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The neighbors started out “nice,” but the kids next door quickly turned those occasional pool days into a free-for-all.

When individuals feel their boundaries are disrespected, it can result in feelings of anger and resentment.

Eventually, she had to deal with their entitlement and the kids' inappropriate behavior.

The deal was that the kids could use the pool occasionally, but they've been abusing their privilege.

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She decided to put up a fence for her privacy and to keep the dog she plans to have within the premises.

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That’s when the mom claimed it was “our pool,” even though the OP says the real problem was what the kids were saying.

It sounds similar to the cousin demanding Grandma’s meatloaf secret recipe for a cooking blog, and the fallout that followed.

Empathy plays a crucial role in resolving conflicts in shared spaces.

The kids' mom tried to talk her out of it, even claiming it's "our pool."

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The OP snapped and revealed the inappropriate comments she and her friends have been receiving when the kids use her pool without permission.

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After the OP spilled the inappropriate comments her friends and she had been hearing, the fence stopped being a debate and became a necessity.

Furthermore, utilizing active listening techniques can enhance communication in shared living situations.

Redditors took the OP's side and advised her to ensure that the kids wouldn't be able to climb over the fence.

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She needs to check her local laws first before she decides on the height of the fence.

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Now that Redditors are telling her to make sure nobody can climb over it, she’s left deciding between neighbor pressure and her own rules for her property.

When it comes down to it, it's the OP's decision to put up a fence. She shouldn't let her neighbors manipulate her into what they want, especially since it's pretty obvious that they're overstepping their boundaries.

And if she's getting a dog, her pet's needs should come first — not the demands of her entitled neighbors.

If other Redditors were in the OP's shoes, they wouldn't allow the kids to swim in the pool at all.

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It's clear that the OP isn't the a-hole, but the neighbors told her that she is after she decided to put up a fence.

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This user suspects that even the previous owners didn't allow kids to use the pool.

The mom probably just wants someone who'll look after the kids for free.

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The original poster faced a frustrating intrusion on her personal space, with neighborhood kids making inappropriate comments while she tried to enjoy her own property. This scenario underscores how vital it is to establish mutual respect and understanding among neighbors. By addressing grievances directly and setting firm boundaries, homeowners can often prevent conflict and cultivate a more pleasant living environment. The OP's decision to build a fence is a tangible response to these invasions of privacy, illustrating a proactive approach to reclaiming her space and dignity.

The fence wasn’t the problem, the entitlement was.

Wait, it gets messier than pool boundary drama, see the date who ordered dinner without consent, then demanded payment.