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Boyfriend Ruins Christmas By Gifting His Girlfriend A $800 Luxury Bag And Inadvertently Causing Her Seizure

On the first day of Christmas, my boyfriend gave to me a bag that triggered my epilepsy.

Boyfriend Ruins Christmas By Gifting His Girlfriend A $800 Luxury Bag And Inadvertently Causing Her Seizure

OP's (original poster) girlfriend used to be a veterinary nurse. She had a rough year because she was forced to stop working due to her increasing seizures caused by her epilepsy.

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She was diagnosed with this 10 years ago, but the seizures have been occurring too frequently for her to hold down a job. OP, being a loving boyfriend, offered to support her financially so she wouldn't have to empty her savings account.

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The girlfriend hated this arrangement since she loved her job and is a fiercely independent person. Given her medical situation, she agreed to OP's financial support.

This Christmas, the couple agreed not to give each other presents. OP had other ideas, though; he thought that after such a challenging year, his girlfriend deserved to be spoiled with something special.

OP decided to buy her an $800 handbag that he had been hiding from her for 2 months. He thought his gift would be a hit and that his girlfriend would be overjoyed.

When OP presented the gift, his girlfriend broke down in tears and started to yell at him. She accused OP of trying to make her look bad for not being able to afford to buy him a gift and of treating her like a "sugar baby."

OP told her that she's being dramatic and it's just a bag, so she should be happy. Bad move, OP.

They argued for another hour, and it concluded with the girlfriend telling OP to, "shove the bag up your ass." She then called her sister to come pick her up and take her to their parents' house.

She and OP have been together for 6 years, and this is the first time they're spending the holidays apart. OP was upset the entire day, but he didn't stop calling his girlfriend to check on her; however, she didn't pick up the calls.

OP got frustrated and sent her a text that said: "Thanks for a great f*cking Christmas." Then, a few hours later, OP got a call from his girlfriend's sister.

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She called to tell OP that his girlfriend had a bad seizure and had to be rushed to the hospital. They think OP is to blame for adding unnecessary stress to his girlfriend's mental state.

OP is now upset about being blamed for the whole unfortunate situation. It also doesn't help that he can't visit her at the hospital due to Covid-19 restrictions.

OP told her that she's being dramatic and it's just a bag, so she should be happy. Bad move, OP.AITAxmasgf
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This is OP's worst Christmas, but is he to blame for the snowball of events?

This is OP's worst Christmas, but is he to blame for the snowball of events?AITAxmasgf

Reddit is divided, to say the least. The story is officially tagged with "Everyone Sucks Here," meaning everyone is to blame.

Reddit is divided, to say the least. The story is officially tagged with OverlookedCharm

The girlfriend should consider going to therapy to process her challenging situation.

The girlfriend should consider going to therapy to process her challenging situation.OverlookedCharm

The couple needs better communication, too.

The couple needs better communication, too.OverlookedCharm

Another comment pointed out that OP is not at fault here.

Another comment pointed out that OP is not at fault here.Soxfan21

Plus, the sister owes him an apology for putting all the blame on him.

Plus, the sister owes him an apology for putting all the blame on him.Soxfan21

While others were quick to point out that there's a big difference between helping someone out financially during an emergency situation and receiving an expensive gift that was never agreed upon.

While others were quick to point out that there's a big difference between helping someone out financially during an emergency situation and receiving an expensive gift that was never agreed upon.thatcatlibrarian

OP simply didn't listen to his girlfriend's wishes.

OP simply didn't listen to his girlfriend's wishes.thatcatlibrarian

OP was wrong to break the agreement. That's a breach of trust, and it might have made the girlfriend feel dismissed.

OP was wrong to break the agreement. That's a breach of trust, and it might have made the girlfriend feel dismissed.minuteye

It's a gift that made her feel more indebted to him.

It's a gift that made her feel more indebted to him.minuteye

Similar experiences were also shared.

Similar experiences were also shared.CanIHaveMyDog

Some suggested that although OP's intentions came from a good place...

Some suggested that although OP's intentions came from a good place...Normal-Height-8577

... he could have chosen a better, less expensive gift that would benefit the two of them.

... he could have chosen a better, less expensive gift that would benefit the two of them.Normal-Height-8577

OP was very wrong to invalidate his girlfriend's feelings. He basically told her to just be grateful and smile.

OP was very wrong to invalidate his girlfriend's feelings. He basically told her to just be grateful and smile.Paint_her_paint_me

OP should have respected the girlfriend's wishes.

OP should have respected the girlfriend's wishes.Paint_her_paint_me

By breaking the agreement, OP's generous gift was tainted.

By breaking the agreement, OP's generous gift was tainted.s10wanderer

This re-enactment could have saved the couple a lot of headaches had they just communicated better.

This re-enactment could have saved the couple a lot of headaches had they just communicated better.mer-shark

"Just because a gift is expensive doesn't make it thoughtful."

mer-shark

OP had good intentions, but he made a poor judgment call.

OP had good intentions, but he made a poor judgment call.NGDGUnpunished

Some think that although OP was a j*rk for buying such a lavish gift, the seizure was not his fault.

Some think that although OP was a j*rk for buying such a lavish gift, the seizure was not his fault.Comfortable_Stop_717

Others also think that the gift was really for OP. The gift was to make himself feel good and generous. It was done with no regard for the girlfriend's feelings.

Others also think that the gift was really for OP. The gift was to make himself feel good and generous. It was done with no regard for the girlfriend's feelings.3n_j4y

Of course, someone referenced The Office, and it's actually spot on.

Of course, someone referenced The Office, and it's actually spot on.Hippocr1t

Others were on OP's side until he shared the message he sent...

Others were on OP's side until he shared the message he sent...thefore

... which they think added stress to the girlfriend's already full plate, hence causing the seizure.

... which they think added stress to the girlfriend's already full plate, hence causing the seizure.thefore

Christmas is indeed the season of giving, but when gifts lead to disastrous results, are they even worth it? According to OP, this is his worst Christmas, and we agree.

Not only did he give a poorly thought-out luxury gift, but his partner of 6 years is also now spending the holidays in a hospital, and he can't even visit her. We wonder if the couple will survive this ordeal.

Maybe it will be a Christmas miracle, and hopefully, OP will update the story once things settle down. Do you think they'll make up, and will it be an interesting story to share in the future?

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