Woman Asks Reddit If She's The A**Hole For Refusing To Give Child Support Back To Her Ex
"Too bad, so sad."
One Reddit user found herself in a messy child support dispute after her ex-husband sent money that was supposed to go toward their 11-year-old daughter, only for the payment to land in the wrong place. Now he wants it back, and she is not eager to hand it over. He also has an 18-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, and the extra payment was tied to something specific for that child.
That mix of overdue support, mixed-up payments, and family frustration has Reddit taking sides fast. Was she wrong to keep the money? Read on.
The Redditor shared her child support story to the AITA subreddit.
The OP explained that her ex also has an 18-year-old daughter from a previous relationship. So, when the father deposited more than the ordered amount for his older daughter, it automatically defaulted to his 11-year-old daughter. And, of course, he now wants the money back.
Reddit/u/PsycheKaosHere's how people reacted.
NTA! "He actually doesn't have any 'extra' right now."
Reddit/u/MollyRollsSome commenters kept it simple: the money belongs where the courts sent it.
"It's your money."
Reddit/u/RexJacobus
Others pointed out that the child support agency, not the ex, is the one that has to sort this out.
It's up to the child support agency.
Reddit/u/teresajs
"What extra money?"
Reddit/u/ChaoticNeutralDragon
That only made the next round of reactions sharper.
An interesting point.
Reddit/u/schnitzeldehuahua
Harsh, but perhaps relevant.
Reddit/u/smeghead9916
It’s the same kind of boundary fight as refusing to fund a sister’s baby after her reckless spending.
"He's not prepared to pay what he's being ordered to pay now."
Reddit/u/Lucia37
"Absolutely not."
Reddit/u/minervasbiscuittin
"F*ck him!"
Reddit/u/OrangeCubit
He can't pay for his 11-year-old, but can pay "extra" for his adult daughter?
Reddit/u/RNGinx3
Joke's on him!
Reddit/u/TrashMonster2020
"That's what happens when you don't take care of your children."
Reddit/u/Proud_Drawing5898
Let him argue with the courts!
Reddit/u/oldlady1909
"Why does he owe you so much but not his other kid?"
Reddit/u/smeghead9916
Woah!
Reddit/u/BarAlone4092
"Keep the money for your daughter."
Reddit/u/FireEbonyashes
"My dad owes $175K in child support."
Reddit/u/Raqueliiosiis
"The courts sent it to you for your daughter."
Reddit/u/SuperUnexpectedMommy
"He doesn't have extra money to give."
Reddit/u/Flaky_Tip
"It is his daughter and he owes the money."
Damn straight!
The truth is, dodging child support is a serious matter. When parents who owe large amounts of money refuse to pay up, it can potentially push families into poverty, or worse.
Not to mention the emotional and physical effects on the children involved. To find out as a child that a parent isn't willing to contribute to your basic living expenses must be crushing.
Seriously, whatever happened to taking responsibility for your own actions? If you create a child, take care of it - it's pretty simple, really.
What's your opinion on our OP's child support predicament? We would love to hear your thoughts in the comment section.
For another AITA fight over money and kids, read about the ex-wife refusing braces costs after a divorce.
