Family Feud: Should I Share Grandmas Secret Casserole Recipe with My Cousin?

A 28-year-old man is sitting on a family treasure, and it has a name, a smell, and a very specific secret casserole recipe. For years, the dish has been the thing people ask about at family dinners, the one pot grandma made that somehow tasted like comfort and pride at the same time.

Here’s the complication: his cousin, Sarah, has been obsessed with that casserole for ages. She keeps reaching out, asking again and again for the recipe, even after he promised grandma as a teenager to keep it in the family. When he finally refuses, she calls him selfish and unfair, and now the tension is getting louder every time they talk.

Now it’s basically a family feud, casserole edition, and he’s wondering if he’s protecting tradition or just being stubborn.

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So I'm (28M) and my grandma, may she rest in peace, was known for her famous secret casserole recipe that's been in our family for generations. My cousin (26F), let's call her Sarah, was always obsessed with this dish and begged me to share the recipe with her.

Now, for background, my grandma taught me the recipe when I was a teenager and made me promise to keep it in the family. I take that promise seriously because it's not just about the recipe; it's about honoring her memory.

Recently, Sarah reached out to me, asking for the recipe once again. I hesitated, feeling torn between family loyalty and Sarah's persistent requests.

I know she's a huge fan of the dish and wants to recreate it, but something in me feels like I need to protect the tradition and keep it within our family circle. I kindly told Sarah that I couldn't share the recipe, citing our family tradition and the promise I made to grandma.

She got upset, accusing me of being selfish and unfair. The tension between us has been escalating, with Sarah's insistence growing stronger and my resolve to keep the recipe secret becoming firmer.

So AITA? I genuinely want to respect my grandma's wishes, but I also don't want to hurt Sarah or come off as insensitive.

It's a tough situation to navigate, and I could really use some outside perspective on this.

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That promise he made to grandma as a teenager is the whole reason he hesitated when Sarah asked for the recipe again.

This is similar to refusing to share grandma’s secret haggis recipe for a cooking competition.

When he told Sarah he couldn’t share it, her attitude flipped fast from “please” to “you’re being selfish.”

The more Sarah insists, the more OP digs in, like the recipe is the last thing keeping grandma’s memory intact.

With their messages escalating and the family dinner vibe turning tense, OP is stuck asking if he’s the villain in this casserole showdown.

We're curious to hear your perspective. Share your thoughts in the comments.

The real question is whether Sarah just wants dinner, or she’s trying to break the one rule OP can’t let go of.

Wait, you kept grandma’s cookie recipe from your cousin too, and got labeled the villain? Read the AITA about keeping grandma’s secret cookie recipe from your cousin.