Dad Swindles Redditor Out Of Mom’s Will, Then Plays Victim — Are They Wrong For Cutting Him Off

It started with a family promise and ended with a Redditor blocking his own dad. The OP says his father pulled a classic “let me handle it” move with the money tied to his mom’s will, then somehow turned the whole situation around and acted like the victim once things blew up.

Here’s the messy part: the OP isn’t even sure where the money went, whether it was invested locally or moved somewhere sketchy, like Russia. After the OP confronted him, the father kept pushing, and the OP finally snapped, told him never to contact him again, and stopped answering. Now the sister is asking the OP to forgive him and “free his soul,” which is a wild ask when the OP believes he was stolen from.

Now the comments have to decide if cutting him off makes the OP the bad guy, or the only one telling the truth.

Read the full story below to find out what happens next...

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The OP is not sure if he invested the house's money locally or if he moved it to Russia

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Eventually, the OP told him never to contact him again, and stopped answering his messages

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His sister is now asking the OP to forgive him for what he did and to free his soul

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The second the OP told his dad never to contact him again, the “victim” act stopped being funny and started looking strategic.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I won't forgive my father because he stole from me. Why does it make me an AH, because family should be everything!

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story

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This reminds us of a sibling who wouldn’t share inheritance with the sister who didn’t help care for Mom.

The OP lists the law degrees

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This Redditor is still doing okay without a single regret

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He took advantage of OP's vulnerable state

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He exploited OP's trust at his most vulnerable moment

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The OP is healed enough to recognize betrayal

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OP's father is a user who won't change

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The OP seems to have made peace with his decision

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While the OP is still piecing together where the mom’s money went, the sister is busy pushing forgiveness like it can erase theft.

The OP’s law degrees and calm explanation only make the betrayal feel more intentional, not like a sad misunderstanding.

By the time the OP is healed enough to recognize a pattern, the family dinner is basically replaced by silence and a hard boundary.

Forgiveness is often framed as liberation—as if letting go automatically lightens the soul. But forgiveness without accountability can feel like rewriting history to make others comfortable.

Dementia may blur OP's dad's memory, but it doesn’t erase his. The betrayal happened, and the choices were deliberate as OP's grief was exploited.

Maybe peace doesn’t require reconciliation, and maybe closure isn’t about restoring a relationship, but accepting its truth. In the end, the OP was declared not the AH.

Nobody wants to forgive a thief just to make the rest of the family feel better.

Ready for another twist, read about the dad who hid a scholarship and refused tuition.