49-Year-Old Mom Admits Attraction to Daughter's Boyfriend; Husband Is Furious

It starts with a glance that should have been nothing, and then it turns into a whole family disaster. OP was staring at her daughter’s boyfriend, Andrew, and the second Andrew noticed, his face went red and he immediately tried to avoid her the rest of the night.

Now add the real complications: OP’s husband, Tom, thinks her behavior is creepy, Andrew is worried enough about what he saw that he tells Alice, and Alice has to deal with the awkward fallout in the middle of her own relationship. It’s not just “oops, wrong vibe,” it’s the kind of boundary mess that makes everyone involved feel uncomfortable.

By the next day, the family dinner did not end well, and Tom is left wondering what he missed.

Andrew caught OP staring at him; his face turned red, and he avoided OP for the rest of the night.

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OP was afraid that Andrew would say something to Alice. She decided to get ahead of the issue and be honest with her husband.

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Family Dynamics and Attraction

This situation touches on complex family dynamics, particularly regarding boundaries and inappropriate attraction.

Tom found OP's crush on Andrew to be creepy. He decided to sleep in the guest bedroom that night and has since avoided speaking to her.

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OP acknowledged that her feelings were inappropriate. She wouldn't have said anything to Tom if she didn't think Andrew would say something to Alice.

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Andrew catches OP staring, and the whole night shifts from normal family time to instant tension.

Psychological studies highlight the impact of familial relationships on personal identity and romantic attachments.

How should OP handle the unavoidable mess she created?

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OP is supposed to be the mature adult here. Why did she need other people's input when she has enough self-awareness to admit that her feelings are inappropriate?

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Tom clocks the situation as creepy, so he sleeps in the guest bedroom and basically hits pause on talking to OP.

This also echoes the AITA question of whether to tell your friend her crush likes her, and the risk of ruining things by keeping it secret.

In situations involving complicated emotional attachments, open dialogue is essential.

Utilizing non-judgmental language can help foster a supportive environment for these conversations.

If OP can't let her feelings for Andrew go, she might as well say goodbye to her family because there is no bouncing back from letting the situation go further.

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OP needs help. She also needs to make an effort to earn her husband's trust back.

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OP tries to get ahead of it by telling Tom she knows her feelings are inappropriate, but that does not magically fix what Andrew already noticed.

Seeking family therapy can also be a beneficial option for addressing underlying issues and improving communication.

By engaging in therapy, families can develop tools to manage their dynamics more effectively.

OP needs to leave the house whenever Andrew is around if she can't restrain her emotions.

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In OP's update, she shared that Andrew did tell Alice about his observations. OP's behavior made him uncomfortable, and he doesn't want to be around her anymore. Her husband isn't as upset anymore. OP said she would make amends.

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In the update, Andrew tells Alice what he observed, and suddenly OP’s “amends” plan has to cover more damage than just Tom’s anger.

Posts in the r/AmItheButtface subreddit are stories that aren't messy enough to get approved on the Am I the A**hole subreddit. The sub also allows fictional scenarios from their OPs as long as they are categorized properly.

If this OP's story played out in real life, the OP would be at fault. Her fictional husband was right; it was creepy for her to have a crush on their daughter's 24-year-old boyfriend.

Before the discussion got too intense, OP made it clear that her post was fictional.

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She said she was probably inspired by the song "Stacy's Mom," which she listened to hours before writing her post.

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This situation highlights the critical need for establishing healthy boundaries within family dynamics. The mother's admission of attraction towards her daughter's boyfriend not only risks familial harmony but also complicates the emotional landscape for everyone involved. It is essential that families engage in open dialogue to address such feelings and seek professional guidance when necessary, ensuring that relationships remain respectful and supportive.

The family might move on, but Andrew and Alice are never going to forget that look.

Want more betrayal fallout? See what happened after she told her friend’s crush to the crush’s best friend in that AITA mess.