20-Year-Old Female, Who Is Being Parentified By Her Mom, Wants To Move Out Of Her Home
She feels like a single mom to her four younger siblings.
Some parents lean on their kids a little too hard, and for one 20-year-old woman, that pressure has turned into a full-time role she never asked for.
She says her mom keeps pushing her to care for four younger siblings, leaving her feeling less like a daughter and more like the person holding the household together. That is why she turned to Reddit’s Am I the A**hole community, where she explained that she wants to move out and finally have a life of her own.
Now the question is simple, but the situation is not: is she wrong for wanting to leave?
The original poster narrates her story.
Few_Blood1369Her plans to move out
Few_Blood1369That is where the tension really starts.
At this point, the mom is and will continue to take advantage of her daughter.
RedditDK2
The original poster doesn't believe that her mom would be able to cope once she's gone.
Few_Blood1369
Contacting CPS could be the answer.
Diesel-King
Reddit had plenty to say about what she should do next.
Some suggested the next best steps after she finally moves out.
AdGroundbreaking4397
She needs to provide some guidance to her siblings as well.
AdGroundbreaking4397
The original poster needs to prepare for when her mom takes steps to prevent her from leaving.
rpsls
Contacting the fathers of her siblings is also a good starting point.
Corfiz74
Some readers focused on how much she has already carried.
This is similar to the AITA where a sister’s financial troubles turned into a boundary battle over moving in.
No matter how much she loves her siblings, they are still not her responsibility. The original poster has her own life to live.
SchnootFarms
She needs to take charge of her life; otherwise, she'll be robbed of her young adult years.
MudLOA
Sadly, she doesn't know who the fathers of her siblings are.
RealTexasJake
What the mom needs to do
AccessibleBeige
Or she could take care of them herself. That's an option too.
Creative_username969
Even from afar, she can still check on her siblings.
RealTexasJake
Then she finally put a name to what she has been dealing with.
She finally learns what her situation is called.
PineTreeMistress
The original poster has a choice.
Knitsanity
This is understandable.
Knitsanity
Her mom is manipulative.
carolinediva
In the first place, the original poster isn't supposed to be the parent.
AccessibleBeige
Accurate.
CoyotePatronus
She needs to take care of herself before taking care of her siblings.
aperturecake
Sadly, the original poster is more involved in her siblings' lives. It's hard to make a decision in such a situation.
We hope that the original poster finds the best solution to this problem. With such an irresponsible mother, it may be best to involve CPS.
For another “move out, but who’s responsible” fight, read about the AITA leaving overcrowded home conflict.
