Lady Seeks Advice Over Her Fiancé's Demand to Return a Beautiful Item She Bought with Her Own Money for Her Big Day

Planning a wedding can be a thrilling and enjoyable experience in an ideal world. Weddings are events where people spend significant amounts of money and walk away with wonderful memories and no regrets.

However, the reality is often much more complicated. Creating a guest list, selecting a venue, and the challenges of finding the perfect wedding gown can be stressful for anyone. According to Dr. Terri Orbuch, a relationship researcher, "It's common for couples to face conflicts during wedding planning, as it often brings out underlying issues."

Moreover, while conflicts are common when planning something this large, some disputes can be quite trivial. A Reddit user shared her story regarding how her fiancé requested that she return a $400 wedding dress she purchased with her own money.

After the lady denied the request, he remarked that only smart brides save money rather than spend it all on one dress. This response did not sit well with the soon-to-be bride, who undoubtedly wanted to present her best self for this extraordinary event. As Dr. Pat Love, a relationship therapist, notes, "It's essential for partners to support each other's choices, especially during significant life events like weddings."

The post by the Redditor garnered considerable attention, receiving nearly 15K upvotes in just four days. It also attracted over 3.6K comments from the AITA community, which concluded that it was the fiancé who was being unreasonable.

According to the user, her fiancé can be melodramatic regarding finances. Scroll down to read the entire story and be sure to share your thoughts on whether you think the lady was right or wrong.

A lady shared how her fiancé wanted her to return a wedding dress worth $400 since she purchased it without informing him.

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The bride-to-be is asking if she did something wrong, despite her fiancé referring to her as childish and irresponsible.

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He's decent...

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My dream wedding dress

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When the soon-to-be bride finally found the ideal wedding dress, the first question from her fiancé was about the cost of the dress.

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Colorless dress...

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"A bride saves money"

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A demand

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It's my big day

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A spoiled 16-year-old...

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Furthermore, the user mentioned that $400 isn't considered a significant amount where she lives, but it still sparked controversy between them.

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In 2014, Stress in America conducted a study among the general public to gauge their attitudes and views on stress. The survey was conducted online and included over 3,000 respondents living in the U.S.

The results show that financial stress is widespread across the country, and regardless of the economic state, money has consistently topped the list of stressors since their first study in 2007. Almost three-quarters of adults report experiencing financial stress at times, and nearly one-quarter say they experience extreme stress over it.

Moreover, it does not appear to be improving, as most respondents indicated that their stress level regarding money had remained the same or increased from the previous year. Additionally, nearly a third of partners and spouses report that the primary source of stress in their relationship is money.

If partners frequently argue over finances and the conflicts remain unresolved, it could develop into a more significant issue. Researchers found that 41% of adults living with their partners admit to becoming annoyed or yelling at their partner due to stress in the past month.

Nonetheless, it is possible to have financial discussions with little to no conflict or drama. Farnoosh Torabi, a personal finance expert, emphasizes that "open communication about money can strengthen relationships." She shares three guidelines on how to discuss finances with your partner.

The first guideline is to understand financial blueprints, which means sorting out your and your partner's feelings and backgrounds regarding money.

The second is to try to identify common beliefs. Once you understand each other's financial blueprints, you should discuss further and determine where you can both negotiate for mutual benefit.

Finally, lead by example and avoid nagging. Both individuals in the relationship should be understanding and respectful of one another.

Remember that determining the best path for both of you may take time, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try at least once.

Redditors were unanimous in their decision and considered the fiancé's behavior to be controlling.

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Controlling behavior...

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A doctor who hounds...

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A blackmail

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Holy red flags

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Yikes

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Get out while you can...

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Move out

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You would agree that discussions about money are not the most pleasant ones. Talking about finances can sometimes be draining and may trigger emotions that lead to conflicts.

One reason is that individuals view money differently, often due to how they were raised. If you tend to spend money freely, you may have positive feelings toward it.

However, if you grew up in a family with a tight budget, you may find discussions about money exhausting.