Lady Seeks Advice Over Her Fiancé's Demand to Return a Beautiful Item She Bought with Her Own Money for Her Big Day
The bride’s fiancé loses it when he discovers that his wife-to-be spent $400 of her own money on a wedding gown.
A wedding dress is supposed to be one of the happiest purchases of the whole process, but for one bride-to-be, it turned into a fight over money and control.
She said she bought a $400 dress with her own money, only for her fiancé to demand that she return it. When she refused, he called her childish and irresponsible, and even suggested that a smart bride would save instead of spending so much on one dress.
Now the argument has spilled into Reddit, where people are weighing in on whether she crossed a line or whether his reaction was the real problem. Read on.
A lady shared how her fiancé wanted her to return a wedding dress worth $400 since she purchased it without informing him.
Tom Pumford (not the actual photo)The bride-to-be is asking if she did something wrong, despite her fiancé referring to her as childish and irresponsible.
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My dream wedding dress
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When the soon-to-be bride finally found the ideal wedding dress, the first question from her fiancé was about the cost of the dress.
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Colorless dress...
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"A bride saves money"
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A demand
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It's my big day
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A spoiled 16-year-old...
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Furthermore, the user mentioned that $400 isn't considered a significant amount where she lives, but it still sparked controversy between them.
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In 2014, Stress in America conducted a study among the general public to gauge their attitudes and views on stress. The survey was conducted online and included over 3,000 respondents living in the U.S.
The results show that financial stress is widespread across the country, and regardless of the economic state, money has consistently topped the list of stressors since their first study in 2007. Almost three-quarters of adults report experiencing financial stress at times, and nearly one-quarter say they experience extreme stress over it.
Moreover, it does not appear to be improving, as most respondents indicated that their stress level regarding money had remained the same or increased from the previous year. Additionally, nearly a third of partners and spouses report that the primary source of stress in their relationship is money.
If partners frequently argue over finances and the conflicts remain unresolved, it could develop into a more significant issue. Researchers found that 41% of adults living with their partners admit to becoming annoyed or yelling at their partner due to stress in the past month.
Nonetheless, it is possible to have financial discussions with little to no conflict or drama. She shares three guidelines on how to discuss finances with your partner.
The first guideline is to understand financial blueprints, which means sorting out your and your partner's feelings and backgrounds regarding money.
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Also, the bride debating whether to refuse funding her sister’s lavish wedding
Redditors were unanimous in their decision and considered the fiancé's behavior to be controlling.
Vynaxleigh
Controlling behavior...
Compensate1995
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A doctor who hounds...
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A blackmail
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Holy red flags
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Yikes
Beckylately
Get out while you can...
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Move out
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You would agree that discussions about money are not the most pleasant ones. Talking about finances can sometimes be draining and may trigger emotions that lead to conflicts.
One reason is that individuals view money differently, often due to how they were raised. If you tend to spend money freely, you may have positive feelings toward it.
However, if you grew up in a family with a tight budget, you may find discussions about money exhausting.
For another wedding funding fight, see the woman refusing her in-laws’ guest list money.
