Mom Furious As Future MIL Decides To Exclude Her Kids From Family Vacation By Saying It's For 'Adults Only'
She realized she was lied to when her future sister-in-law arrived with her three children.
A 28-year-old woman refused to just “go along” when her future mother-in-law tried to pull a fast one on her kids. The invitation sounded harmless, even flattering, until it wasn’t.
OP and her fiancé had been trying to smooth things over with his mom, who clearly wasn’t buying her. Still, the pattern kept showing up, OP’s kids getting left out of family gatherings, and now a so-called adults-only vacation was the latest excuse.
And when OP finally showed up, the “adults only” trip turned into a straight-up lie that blew up right in front of everyone.
The OP reveals her family situation and that she's in a relationship.
RedditHer FMIL isn't too fond of her.
And although the OP's relationship with the FMIL is improving, the FMIL tends to exclude the OP's kids from gatherings.
RedditThe OP was invited to an adults-only family trip by the FMIL.
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When she and her fiancé met up with the rest of the family, the OP discovered she was lied to.
It wasn't an adults-only trip.
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The SIL's husband told her that the FMIL must have lied so she could exclude the OP's kids.
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She didn't join the trip. It ended up in a fight with her fiancé.
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The fiancé finally reveals his true colors. This isn't looking good for the OP.
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She might want to reconsider marrying this guy.
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He's defending his mom even if it's clear that the FMIL is in the wrong.
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The FMIL should've been honest.
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This guy's blaming the wrong person.
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This will be a problem in the long run.
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It wasn't about causing family drama; it was simply refusing to yield to the FMIL's manipulation.
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The guy needs to understand that while he doesn't have the responsibility of a dad, he has the responsibility to emotionally protect the kids.
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This situation definitely reveals the guy's red flags.
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The fact that the guy defended his lying mom is already alarming.
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Did the fiancé even think about his mom's actions?
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If he truly cared, he could've canceled the trip.
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Looks like the OP's fiancé is a mama's boy.
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Time to return the ring to the fiancé.
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The OP should've considered the fiancé her ex the moment he defended his mom, users think.
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It’s the same kind of tension as the couple debating whether to invite in-laws on their anniversary trip.
This is the ideal scenario.
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The lying was intentional.
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The fiancé is siding with a liar. Yikes!
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In this situation, the fiancé, sadly, is an enabler.
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Given their two-year relationship, it's only natural for people to assume that the FMIL should already be showing love and respect to the OP's kids.
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Why was the guy not appalled by his lying mother?
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The OP and her kids deserve better treatment.
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Redditors don't see the situation improving. The FMIL will just repeat her actions.
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At least the SIL's husband was concerned.
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FMIL brought inconveniences to the OP's family because of a lie.
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The FMIL was the root of this drama, not the OP.
There's nothing wrong with standing up against this kind of unfair treatment.
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The real a-holes here are the FMIL and the OP's fiancé.
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The OP and her kids will never be good enough for the FMIL.
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The fiancé should have stood up for the OP.
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The situation will only improve when the fiancé and his family are out of their lives.
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The FMIL is very much aware of her actions. Sadly, the fiancé doesn't consider them a problem.
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The OP didn't spring her kids on the FMIL. All the FMIL needed to do was be honest about it.
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Sadly, the FMIL's attitude toward the OP's children won't change.
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The fiancé's love for the girls might be superficial.
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The fiancé's reaction is clearly a red flag.
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This is disrespect, and the OP's kids don't deserve this.
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It's a good thing that the OP stood up for her kids.
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If this Redditor were the OP, she would've dumped the fiancé.
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This can't be considered springing the kids on the FMIL.
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Part of being a family is the FMIL accepting the OP's kids.
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If only the FMIL had allowed the kids to go with them, it would've been a good opportunity to know and bond with each other.
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Maybe he's just pretending to adore the girls.
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That’s when OP realized the “adults-only” label from her future MIL was just a setup to keep her kids out of the plan.
After OP met up with the rest of the family, the SIL’s husband clocked the situation and basically confirmed, the MIL must have lied.
When OP didn’t join the trip and it turned into a fight with her fiancé, the cracks in their relationship got loud fast.
And the moment the fiancé defended his mom instead of calling out the lie, Redditors started treating his “mama’s boy” behavior like a huge red flag.
The FMIL's attitude toward the OP's kids will never change. Unless the fiancé does something about it, the little ones will always be left out.
The OP stood up for her kids, but her fiancé wasn't cooperating. Eventually, the kids will notice this kind of disrespect, causing emotional pain.
Ultimately, the decision regarding the relationship rests with the OP, and many Redditors are advising her to run away from this man and his family.
Nobody wants to marry into a family that lies, then expects you to stay quiet about it.
Want another in-law blowup about priorities? Read why she chose work over her mother-in-law’s family reunion.
