This Redditor Refused To Be His Friend’s 6:30 A.M. Chauffeur - Now Everyone’s Calling Him Selfish

Some people don’t recognize a favor when it comes with a wake-up call at 6:30 a.m. and a daily schedule wrecking mission.

This Redditor, 21M, says his friend, 21F, asked him to drive her to her 8 a.m. classes every weekday because her car broke down and is stuck in the shop for weeks. They live about 15 minutes apart, but his own classes do not start until 11 a.m., meaning he would either have to sit around campus for hours or keep shuffling his routine just to drop her off. He offered help sometimes, she pushed back hard, and mutual friends started calling him selfish for “just” doing it temporarily.

Now the comments are treating his boundary like a betrayal, and the whole thing hinges on one very early alarm.

The OP explained that the daily early wake-up call would completely wreck his sleep schedule and routine.

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I (21M) have a friend (21F) whose car recently broke down and is in the shop for a couple of weeks. We live about 15 minutes apart, and I’m currently the only one in our friend group with a car. She asked if I could drive her to her 8 AM classes every weekday until she gets her car back.

The issue is that my classes don’t start until 11 AM. If I agree, I’d have to wake up around 6:30, get ready, drive to her place, drop her off, and then either drive back home or sit around campus for a few hours waiting for my own classes. I told her I could help sometimes, but not every day, because it completely throws off my sleep schedule and routine. She didn’t take it well and said that if the roles were reversed, she would do it for me. A couple of our mutual friends are also saying it’s not that big of a deal and that I’m being kind of selfish since it’s “just for a short time.” I don’t mind helping occasionally, but I feel like being expected to wake up early every single day for weeks is a lot to ask. AITA for setting that boundary?

Let’s see how the Reddit community reacted.

HolSmGamer

Why is it your responsibility?

Alturistic-Apple4757

She should at least offer to pay you.

Frankensteins_Kid

NTA.

I-luv-sloths

What’s wrong with Uber?

HillBillyMadman

NAH.

somebodywantstoldme

This is the same kind of tension as a dad debating whether to stop funding his son after he dropped out for a band.

No way, enjoy your sleep!

forsocmed111

Let her figure out her own transportation.

Vispartofmyname

You did the right thing.

ikjuf66

Your friend is very entitled.

GirlDad2023_

She can take the bus.

Expensive_Plant_9530

You’re not obligated to help.

BlueyIsAwesome

What kind of friend is she?

Impossible_Sun_9534

The moment OP explained he’d have to wake up around 6:30 a.m. every weekday, the whole “it’s only a short time” argument started to fall apart.

When his friend said she would do it for him if the roles were reversed, mutual friends jumped in to pile on, like this was a simple trade.

That’s when OP pointed out the real issue, it’s not one ride, it’s weeks of his sleep schedule getting crushed every single day.

With OP still willing to help occasionally, the debate turned into whether “expected” means he should give up his routine completely for his friend’s classes.

At the end of the day, the OP isn’t refusing to help—he’s just setting limits. There’s a big difference between doing a favor and rearranging your entire life for weeks.

Now the debate is simple: is he being selfish, or just protecting his time (and his sleep)?

He’s not refusing to help, he’s refusing to become a 6:30 a.m. chauffeur.

Before you judge, read what this employee refused to sign into a free-overtime contract.