Woman Considers Cutting Friend Off After She Bails On Planned Trip
One missed plan is one thing, four is another.
A 28-year-old woman is seriously considering cutting off her friend after yet another trip gets derailed, and this time it wasn’t even a last-minute “life happens” situation. It was the kind of delay that leaves someone waiting, checking messages, and realizing the plan is slipping away again.
Here’s the messy part, the friend bailed on a planned trip multiple times, and the kicker was the timing. She didn’t even let OP know until hours later, then tried to flip the script when OP got frustrated. So now it’s not just about missing the trip, it’s about trust, respect, and whether OP’s feelings even matter in this friendship.
After the comments piled up, OP has to decide if this is a pattern… or just bad luck with a guilty conscience.
Let’s dig into the details
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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This is similar to the woman deciding whether to exclude her unreliable best friend from a group trip.
“Saying she’s unreliable is a character statement. Maybe it’s true but it’s going to put her on the defensive.”
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“NTA for this interaction. Massive YTA for your responses to comments here.”
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“If really there’s a pattern tho, it’s not cool at all.”
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“A real friend doesn't ditch you like this multiple times and then tries to make you feel guilty for expressing your frustration.”
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“You are right: she is unreliable. She does not respect people's time. Do not trust her and do not count on her.”
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“There's no point in rehashing her failures. You cannot count on her that's now a fact.”
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“You told her the truth. It's not just that she didn't follow-through on the plans, it's that she didn't even tell you until hours later.”
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“NTA - This woman has shown that she hasn't learned to be responsible yet.”
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The whole thing really turns when OP realizes she didn’t just bail, she waited hours to tell OP about the trip that was already in motion.
And once the friend started pushing back on the “unreliable” label, the conversation stopped being about the trip and became about who gets to feel wronged.
That’s when Reddit commenters basically repeated the same warning, if she keeps missing plans and then acts like OP is the problem, it’s not an accident anymore.
The final straw energy hits hard when OP weighs one more chance against the fact that this has happened multiple times, and OP is tired of being left hanging.
Anyone can miss a plan once; It happens. But when it keeps happening over and over again, it stops feeling accidental and starts feeling like someone you can’t rely on.
At the same time, being called unreliable can hit hard, especially if the person doesn’t see their behavior the same way.
But there’s a limit to how many times someone can show up and be left waiting before they say something about it.
So where do you draw that line?
How many chances would you give before calling it what it is?
OP might be done waiting for a friend who keeps canceling, then blaming OP for reacting.
Want the same Reddit-style travel standoff, check out the woman debating ditching her flaky travel friend.
