Annual New Year Trip - Lady Gets Revenge For Being Tossed Out To Please Ex's New GF

A 28-year-old woman just wanted to ring in the New Year with a trip, and her ex’s friend group acted like she was already part of their “we’re all together” plans.

The catch? Her partner, Amy, was uncomfortable with the OP going at all, because everyone else was coupled up and she was single. Then the friends heard “Amsterdam trip” and assumed they were coming too, like the itinerary was already theirs to claim.

It’s the kind of holiday entitlement that turns a fun getaway into a boundary showdown.

The OP writes...

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Amy is uncomfortable with the OP going on a trip because everyone is coupled up and she was single

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When OP's friends learned about her trip to Amsterdam, they just assumed they are coming with them as well

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The moment Amy realized the OP was still going, her discomfort turned into a bigger issue because everyone else was paired up and she wasn’t.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below.

The OP is under no obligation to include her friends

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The arrogance to think the OP wouldn't be angry after what they did

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This Amsterdam trip drama is similar to the grocery line conflict, where a stranger cut in and got publicly shamed.

The OP can reconcile in the future with stronger boundaries

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They have to plan their own trips themselves

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The OP was already making plans before she knew they weren't together

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It sounds like the OP was kept because she made the plans

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This Redditor said they would do what the OP did

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The OP did leave an update later on saying...

I am still going on a trip with my roommate, we actually got few more people to come so it’s more like a group thing now ( none of my old friends haha). Considering my old friend group I did see some of them few times and cleared some things up. Reddit

When the friends heard Amsterdam, they didn’t ask, they just assumed the OP would fold them into the trip, even though the OP was already making plans.

That “we’re coming with you” attitude hit a nerve, and the OP’s friends basically tested her patience after tossing her aside for her ex’s new girlfriend.

The update made it clear the OP didn’t cancel anything, she just reshuffled the group, bringing her roommate and new people instead of the old crowd.

You can say that friends are the family you choose. Naturally, as long as friends are together, they can create memories of almost anything, but vacation memories usually stand out a little more than the one time you binge-watched all the morning talk shows while drinking coffee.

You can be your even more bizarre usual self around them because of this. Even while they do occasionally irritate you, you can fall more in love with the family you've chosen by letting loose on vacation with your best friends.

The OP was declared not the AH, and you can drop your own verdict in the comments.

Amsterdam ended up being the OP’s revenge plan, not the ex’s friend group’s free ride.

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