Man Calls Out GF For Always Neglecting Him But Doing Valentine For Friends

Some couples treat Valentine’s Day like a big romantic scoreboard. This one turned into an argument instead, because OP felt like his girlfriend was always doing everyone else first.

He says he’s the one who “always comes last,” while she somehow had time to grab Valentine’s stuff for her friends. When he called that out, she snapped back with, “What am I not supposed to have friends and just only hang around with you?” Then OP admitted he acted childish and had a temper tantrum, but the bigger issue was that this was not a one-off, and she never really owned her priorities.

Now he’s stuck wondering if he’s being treated like an afterthought, even on the day that’s supposed to be about love.

The OP kicks off his story saying...

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"Funny you had time to get stuff for them though, why does it seem like I always come last".

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"What am I not supposed to have friends and just only hang around with you?"

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When OP noticed she had gifts ready for her friends but not for him, he immediately felt like he was getting sidelined again.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

Maybe I should have just let it go or brought it up later instead of acting childish and sorta having a temper tantrum.

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story

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The OP should just consider himself single

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She knows exactly what she did but just won't acknowledge it

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She doesn't sound like a good partner at all

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That’s when the girlfriend tried to flip it into a “you don’t get to have friends” argument, even though OP was talking about effort, not friendships.

It’s like the dilemma in the story about telling a friend’s secret crush.

OP then explained in the comments that he’s 23 and she’s 21, and that her first relationship lasting this long might be why she thinks the boyfriend is automatically supposed to get gifts.

The OP revealed in the comments that he is 23 years old while his girlfriend is 21 years old. He also went further to say...

It's her first relationship that's lasted longer, maybe she thinks it's just the bf that's supposed to get gifts.

The OP is right in expecting some form of consideration

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The OP will probly always be an afterthought

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This Redditor just had to sing it like a song

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The OP should go find himself someone that values him

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The Redditors piled on, basically saying she knew exactly what she did, and OP might always be the one waiting his turn.

Giving Valentine's Day gifts should be motivated by genuine sentiment, thoughtfulness, and consideration. You can make sure that your Valentine's Day celebration is a significant and unforgettable display of love and affection by choosing personalised gifts, being honest with your partner, and avoiding typical traps.

OP's girlfriend failed to appreciate her partner, and many Redditors saw her actions as being very manipulative. In the end, the OP was declared not the AH, and that's where we close the curtains.

He might be happier when he’s not competing with her friends for basic attention.

For another relationship ultimatum, read about whether someone should rehome their cat after a partner’s allergy demand.