Friendship Dilemma: Refusing to Rent U-Haul for Move after Day Off - AITA?

AITA for not wanting to rent a U-Haul to help a friend move after previously doing all the heavy lifting while she watched?

Damjan

Published in Interesting
4 Mar 2026

Friendship Dilemma: Refusing to Rent U-Haul for Move after Day Off - AITA?

A 28-year-old woman refused to rent a U-Haul for her best friend’s move, and it went about as smoothly as you’d expect when heavy lifting is on the menu. The friendship already has history, too, because this isn’t some random favor, it’s a repeat performance with the same person doing the same kind of work.

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Here’s the messy part: OP helped eight months ago by taking a day off, renting the U-Haul, and doing the heavy lifting while her friend mostly watched and talked on the phone. Now the friend is moving again, storing clothes in ripped trash bags, and somehow deciding the new plan needs a U-Haul again, even though it’s not nearly as far this time.

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OP offered the car option, but the friend screamed, insulted her, and made it a whole thing, so now everyone’s wondering who’s really the problem.

Original Post

My best friend is moving again, she stores all her clothes in ripped and torn trash bags instead of packing them into stackable boxes. About 8 months ago I helped her move from a bad area to a much nicer area in another city, I rented a uhaul and loaded her clothes and bags into the van while she mostly watched.

The entire ordeal took about 8 hours from start to finish. I did all the heavy lifting while she talked on the phone to her friends.

I work in sales retail and my schedule varies from week to week, so its hard to plan things in advance as I can make a request for time off but I cant always do it due to scheduling issues. I called in a few favors with my boss to get this day off yesterday as I was unable to move schedules around with my coworkers beforehand to get it done properly for coverage.

Now shes moving again because to her it feels better to rent a room with a family in it in a bad area then to live in a studio on her own in a good area. I dont want to rent a uhaul again knowing that its not nearly as far as it was before and Im fine taking my car.

She can also use her car to help load things in and out and it would be slow, but wouldnt cost too much outside of gas. Instead of working around it, she screams at me and insults me for not renting the uhaul, for her, again.