Woman Ransacks Her Boyfriend’s Apartment After He Stole Her Passport To Prevent Her From Taking A Trip To Mexico

I believe we can all agree that we've had our fair share of disastrous relationships. When, on the other hand, does a lousy relationship become toxic?

The kind that has a negative impact on your physical, mental, spiritual, or emotional health? The term “toxic relationship” was first coined in 1995 by Dr. Lillian Glass, a communication and psychology expert.

She defined it as “any relationship between people who don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect, and a lack of cohesiveness.” So, when does the relationship become toxic?

Probably when your partner hides your passport to prevent you from attending your friend's wedding abroad. That's what happened to a Reddit user going by the name u/Dontstealmypassport.

She shared her story and asked Redditors to answer, "AITA for ransacking my boyfriend’s apartment?" The question may be misleading.

You should read her story carefully, and you will find the reason for ransacking the apartment disturbing. If you are in a similar relationship, you should question your reasons for remaining in it.

What this young woman describes is not simply a lovers' quarrel. Take a look; maybe you will learn something about your relationship...

OP asks:

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She's been living with her (considerably older) BF for the past eight months:

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OP has a friend in Mexico who is getting married. She was planning to attend, but her overprotective BF was very much against it.

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And then her passport went missing from her nightstand. Her BF claimed he had nothing to do with it.

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OP didn't believe him, so she started to search for it. As a result, the apartment was pretty much ransacked. But she found the passport.

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Her BF was furious and claimed he was only joking and was going to give the passport back to OP.

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OP is not experienced in relationships, so she asks if what she did was wrong.

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Redditors had no doubts—OP is right.

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OP went to her parents' house.

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Standing ovation for Dad.

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Redditors also warned OP:

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OP shouldn't let him talk her out of leaving.

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She may even have grounds to report him to the police.

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It is a good thing OP walked out because things could've escalated.

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Signs of future life.

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Sadly, this is true.

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OP responded.

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These are the first steps in an abusive relationship.

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Yes, this is escalating. The BF is literally following the steps in the "How To Be An Abusive Boyfriend" rulebook.

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And that's not an understatement...

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OP posted an update:

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Well, OP certainly dodged a bullet here. Frankly, things would probably get worse in the future. These are only the first steps in a controlling and toxic relationship.

We noticed that OP is significantly younger than her ex-boyfriend. It seems that most abusive and controlling relationships involve people with a significant age difference.

Does that say something?