Woman Asks Boyfriend To Go With Her To An Uncomfortable Doctors Appointment, But He Says He'd Rather Not

A 28-year-old woman asked her boyfriend to come with her to an IUD appointment, and he did not exactly jump at the chance. OP says the request wasn’t just about “being nice,” either. It was the kind of visit that can feel awkward, painful, and a little scary, especially when you are the one getting it done.

Here’s where it gets messy: if OP skips, she can still bring her mom, so the appointment is not totally stranded. But OP is worried about showing up anyway, even while he tries to figure out his work shift. He posts to Reddit asking if he’s the asshole, then updates that he’s trying to switch his shift so he can be there.

And the comment section immediately treated the IUD like a relationship math problem, not a personal comfort issue.

OP starts off with saying how his girlfriend asked him to go to the doctor with her because she's getting an IUD put in.

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He explains that it wouldn't be a big deal if he didn't go because she'd just bring her mom, but he still wants to know if he's TA or not.

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He then added an edit to explain when he gets his schedule, plus an update saying that he's trying to switch his shift so that he can go with her.

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While OP is counting down to the appointment and his schedule, the IUD itself becomes the main argument, not the awkwardness of the moment.

The situation presented in the Reddit post highlights the complexities of relationship dynamics, particularly when it comes to navigating uncomfortable experiences. The woman's request for her boyfriend to accompany her to a doctor's appointment reflects a common desire for support during potentially distressing situations. However, his reluctance indicates a misalignment of expectations that can often arise in relationships.

Responses to uncomfortable scenarios, such as medical visits, are deeply influenced by individual backgrounds and emotional readiness. This disparity can create misunderstandings, as one partner may view attendance as a vital source of support, while the other may feel overwhelmed or unprepared to engage in such scenarios. The disappointment stemming from these differing perspectives underscores the importance of open communication and understanding within a relationship.

The first comment automatically calls him TA in this situation because the IUD is for him too.

joeswastedtime

The comments came in hot, telling OP that he was wrong for not attending the doctor's appointment with his girlfriend.

eggy_bo_beggy

Most comments were telling him that the birth control is technically for him as well.

9smalltowngirl

Benefiting from this IUD would be great, but he might not be getting that if he doesn't attend the appointment with his girlfriend.

SWGTravel

Some argued that the appointment should be quick, so he shouldn't be that late for work to the point where he can't work something out with his boss.

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Many claimed that he was indeed TA because he was putting other things over being there for his girlfriend during an invasive procedure.

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As soon as the birth-control context shows up, commenters start saying the IUD is “for him too,” even though OP is talking about support during an uncomfortable visit.

This is also like the woman who canceled a cooking date with her boyfriend’s mom because she felt ill.

Then OP tries to switch his shift, and people debate whether he should prioritize the appointment over work timing, like it’s a simple trade.

Encouraging Open Communication in Relationships

Encouraging open dialogue about emotional needs can prevent misunderstandings and promote healthier relationship dynamics.

Encouraging partners to express their needs, especially concerning emotional support, can lead to greater fulfillment in the relationship.

This is where people start bringing out other perspectives and saying it's a communication issue, so there really is NAH.

SnooCrickets6980

This person even said that OP was NTA because his girlfriend told him that it would be okay if he didn't go.

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Then they go on to explain that she's not getting the IUD for him but for herself, so no, he doesn't NEED to be there.

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By the time the thread is done, OP is stuck wondering if he’s the problem for not showing up with his girlfriend, even though she can bring her mom.

Additionally, practicing active listening can enhance mutual understanding between partners.

This practice can foster a safe space for both partners to express their feelings without fear of judgment or dismissal.

Ultimately, this is pretty much true because it would have been a bigger prior discussion if this was the case.

Black_flaminago84

We are glad that OP is looking to get his shift switched so he can attend the appointment and support his girlfriend because she probably would want him there during this procedure. However, some people said that OP wasn't in the wrong for saying no because she told him that it wasn't a big deal.

The situation presented in the Reddit post underscores the complexities of relationship dynamics, particularly in moments that call for support. The woman's request for her boyfriend to accompany her to a doctor's appointment highlights the importance of emotional availability in a partnership. When he declines, preferring to avoid the situation, it raises questions about the foundations of their communication.

This exchange illustrates how open dialogue and mutual understanding are essential for navigating uncomfortable experiences together. The boyfriend's hesitation may suggest a lack of awareness regarding the emotional weight such appointments can carry for his partner, potentially impacting their relationship satisfaction.

Now OP is realizing Reddit can make an IUD appointment feel like a test he never agreed to take.

Before you decide whether her boyfriend should have skipped a work event, read what happened when someone demanded their partner skip a work event for a presentation.