Mom Who Recently Underwent Traumatic Childbirth Screams At Her Grandmother-In-Law, Now The Husband Wonders Whether He Should've Defended Her
It's a weird situation to be in for sure...??
One harsh comment can turn a fragile family visit into a full-blown fight, especially when everyone is already running on stress and exhaustion.
That is exactly what happened in this story, where a husband’s wife was still recovering from traumatic childbirth and a grandmother-in-law said something cruel enough to set off a screaming match. The husband did not jump in to defend his grandmother, and now his family is upset with him for choosing his wife’s side.
Reddit had plenty to say about that choice, and the reactions were not subtle.
Here's the original post by Reddit user u/puddlespuddled:
RedditOP's wife needed a lot of professional help and support after giving birth.
RedditThat was already a tense situation before the grandmother-in-law even spoke.
Considering her fragile state, OP's wife definitely did not wish to hear things like that.
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OP's family was "appalled" by his wife's behavior and the fact that he didn't defend his grandma.
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Then the family reaction made everything messier.
Here's how Reddit users reacted to u/YogurtclosetLow2153's dilemma:
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He prioritized his wife, and that's how things should be.
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OP will make an amazing dad; he seems like a caring and loving partner.
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OP's wife is not the problem here; it's actually the grandma.
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Back in your day, things were completely different, and now we live in different times.
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Even after he warned them, they still managed to get her upset.
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What was she trying to achieve with that comment?
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Older people tend to say what they want without any filter.
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One commenter shared a similar experience and jumped into the discussion.
This user had a similar experience and shared her story:
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She needs to be surrounded by support constantly.
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OP is doing a great job and acted appropriately in that situation.
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She can also get professional guidance to help her bond with her baby more.
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Southern_Hamster_338 then added an edit for further clarification.
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You have the right to feel a certain way about it.
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There are some things that you just can't control.
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OP's reply kept the focus on how badly the comment landed.
OP's reply to Southern_Hamster_338's comment:
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Grandma should seriously check herself and reevaluate the way she talks to people.
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That's not something she would want to hear while in that state.
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It shouldn't really get worse than that.
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Grandma should be reminded of all the suffering OP's wife went through.
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Normally, it should not get worse than that.
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Way out of line. She told her the worst possible thing you could say to a woman in that situation.
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People always manage to make it worse with the random things they say.
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It's as real as it gets and should not be taken lightly.
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No apology is required here; they should be the ones apologizing.
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They should be understanding, not add more pain to the mix.
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Being a grandparent is a privilege, not a given right.
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OP prioritized his wife over his grandma's terrible comment, and that makes total sense. No apology is needed here from OP's side; however, his family should definitely apologize to the wife because they were well aware of her fragile state, and the grandma still decided to chime in with her negative comment that started all of this.
OP's wife does not owe any of them a single thing, and if they want to visit her during this fragile period, they should abide by her rules and not make random comments that might have a negative effect on her.
The family dinner did not end well.
Want closure, or more chaos? See why a 35F chose to confront her MIL after ruining her marriage, and whether she should demand an apology from her.
