Mom Who Recently Underwent Traumatic Childbirth Screams At Her Grandmother-In-Law, Now The Husband Wonders Whether He Should've Defended Her
It's a weird situation to be in for sure...??
A lot of people don't know how to be supportive; they will do and say things to try to make things better, but all they end up doing is making the situation worse than it originally was. Even saying the wrong thing at the wrong time can have an immense impact on a person or a group of people.
Words are powerful, and they can ruin your whole day (or even life if said to the wrong people). That's why people constantly apply a sort of verbal filter to the words they speak to avoid offending anyone unintentionally. Despite all of that, every now and then, you will make the wrong decisions and end up causing a lot of drama.
Reddit user u/YogurtclosetLow2153 made a post a while ago on the r/AmItheA$$hole subReddit explaining how his wife had serious complications after childbirth, so her mental and physical state was very fragile at the time. OP's wife ended up telling his grandma to F-off after she made a terrible comment, which shocked OP's family, and drama ensued.
Scroll down to read the full Reddit post, and to check out screenshots of comments from the original post, all you have to do is scroll down a little further!
Here's the original post by Reddit user u/puddlespuddled:
RedditOP's wife needed a lot of professional help and support after giving birth.
RedditConsidering her fragile state, OP's wife definitely did not wish to hear things like that.
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OP's family was "appalled" by his wife's behavior and the fact that he didn't defend his grandma.
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Here's how Reddit users reacted to u/YogurtclosetLow2153's dilemma:
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He prioritized his wife, and that's how things should be.
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OP will make an amazing dad; he seems like a caring and loving partner.
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OP's wife is not the problem here; it's actually the grandma.
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Back in your day, things were completely different, and now we live in different times.
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Even after he warned them, they still managed to get her upset.
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What was she trying to achieve with that comment?
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Older people tend to say what they want without any filter.
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This user had a similar experience and shared her story:
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She needs to be surrounded by support constantly.
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OP is doing a great job and acted appropriately in that situation.
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She can also get professional guidance to help her bond with her baby more.
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Southern_Hamster_338 then added an edit for further clarification.
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You have the right to feel a certain way about it.
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There are some things that you just can't control.
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OP's reply to Southern_Hamster_338's comment:
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Grandma should seriously check herself and reevaluate the way she talks to people.
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That's not something she would want to hear while in that state.
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It shouldn't really get worse than that.
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Grandma should be reminded of all the suffering OP's wife went through.
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Normally, it should not get worse than that.
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Way out of line. She told her the worst possible thing you could say to a woman in that situation.
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People always manage to make it worse with the random things they say.
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It's as real as it gets and should not be taken lightly.
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No apology is required here; they should be the ones apologizing.
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They should be understanding, not add more pain to the mix.
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Being a grandparent is a privilege, not a given right.
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OP prioritized his wife over his grandma's terrible comment, and that makes total sense. No apology is needed here from OP's side; however, his family should definitely apologize to the wife because they were well aware of her fragile state, and the grandma still decided to chime in with her negative comment that started all of this.
OP's wife does not owe any of them a single thing, and if they want to visit her during this fragile period, they should abide by her rules and not make random comments that might have a negative effect on her.
