Husband Insists On Keeping His Inheritance To Himself But Cries Foul When His Wife Refuses To Share Hers
She bought a row of townhouses with her inheritance, and he spent all his on trips.
OP thought the money problem in her marriage was settled years ago, until inheritance entered the picture and changed everything. Her husband had already drawn a hard line about keeping his own check separate, but he did not like it when the same rule came back around to him.
After having triplets and stepping away from her job, OP later took on cleaning work for their landlord and quietly built up savings of her own. Then her husband received an inheritance from his mother, spent it on trips with his brothers, and insisted it was his alone. When OP's grandfather later passed away and left her money, the double standard became impossible to ignore.
Now the argument is not just about inheritance, it is about fairness, control, and who gets to decide what counts as family money. Read on.
A few years later, OP's grandfather passed away, and she was the only grandchild.
Her parents made great money, so it was no surprise when she became the sole recipient of his entire estate.
She transferred the money, rented the farmland around his home, but kept the house itself since it's close enough to her parents' house. All of these decisions OP made by herself.
She didn't discuss it with her husband, considering their rule about each other's inheritance. Recently, their landlord approached OP to tell her he was selling the townhomes OP's family was living in.
OP got worried about how it would impact their family as well as their budget. OP made the decision to purchase the building herself with her combined inheritance and savings.
When he learned about this, the husband told her he wanted OP to deposit part of the rental income into their family account to be used for fun.
OP gladly reminded her husband about their agreement, and since she purchased their home, they didn't have rent to pay. He got angry and called OP an a**hole for refusing to share her money.
Zealousideal_Fly4786
The infuriating story is below:
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"With his money..."
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"He says I am being the A for not sharing the money coming in."
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OP added an update after reading all of the brilliant suggestions from Reddit.
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"He was shocked."
Zealousideal_Fly4786
Yeah, OP, why?
Suitable-Cod-1381
This was not the only comment suggesting a divorce.
HELLOW_102
The bulleted list is very enlightening, and OP should most definitely talk to a lawyer.
GoodGirlsGrace
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GoodGirlsGrace
OP is now a multiple-property owner. She can easily escape him if she wants to.
3rd-time-lucky
He turned that rule around really fast once he realized OP has a small fortune.
kawaeri
They pull it out of thin air.
Maleficent_Mistake50
This landlord and inheritance boundary fight feels just like the AITA where a wife refused to share her inheritance with financially irresponsible in-laws.
Truly the best comment.
GeneralDismal6410
The money they were putting toward rent will now be the fun money, but he somehow wanted more?
Music_withRocks_In
That's 2k fun money for dear husband. Greedy.
Zealousideal_Fly4786
She really should.
Suitable-Cod-1381
OP's dad sounds like a great guy.
Zealousideal_Fly4786
He doesn't have the best history budgeting a lot of money.
rhetorical_twix
This is a boundary the husband cannot cross, no matter what. He put it there in the first place.
MissContrariwise
It's OP's only choice.
lotus_eater123
It's for her and her children if the husband pulls more stunts like this in the future.
KelzTheRedPanda
The husband needs solo therapy sessions.
firefly232
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OP answered some of Reddit's questions.
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Who_apostrophe_sWho
She is a smart, savvy lady, and we like her.
Zealousideal_Fly4786
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Good for you, OP! Good for you!
AltLawyer, Zealousideal_Fly4786
We are all itching for an update.
GOTGameOfThrowaway
OP will have a blast hitting the slopes without the weight of her husband.
Zealousideal_Fly4786
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Can he be trusted to be alone with the kids?
pinapple_whore
Thankfully, OP's aunt is there just in case.
Zealousideal_Fly4786
Do not let him go with you on your trip, OP!
internationalnomad96
From that story, OP sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders. She has so far made all the right decisions to protect herself as well as her children.
She has done a great job, and she can only be better once she's back from her fabulous trip. After what her husband put her through, OP deserves to make time for herself.
Wait until you see why this wife refused her husband’s family, despite inheritance pressure, in Protecting My Inheritance: AITA for Keeping It from My Husband's Family?.
