Husband Insists On Keeping His Inheritance To Himself But Cries Foul When His Wife Refuses To Share Hers

OP (original poster) and her husband had triplets together two years into their marriage. Their babies had health issues, and the husband convinced OP to quit her job to stay home with their children.

It was cheaper than paying for childcare, so OP agreed. Their house is one of six in a series of townhouses owned by their landlord.

OP was offered a job cleaning the homes when the tenants moved out by their landlord. She consulted her husband about the job, and he said he didn't care as long as it didn't interfere with her duties regarding their kids and their house.

They also had an agreement that all the money OP earned would solely be hers. She did the job for three years, and before she knew it, OP was cleaning the landlord's other properties.

She put everything she earned into a savings account for safekeeping. One day, OP's father-in-law died, and her husband received a check from his mother.

When OP asked about the inheritance, he got angry. He said it was his money and declared that any future inheritance they received would not be a part of the family budget.

OP's husband used his inheritance on a series of trips with his brothers. She was fine with it, but she was hurt that he got so angry when she only asked about it.

A few years later, OP's grandfather passed away, and she was the only grandchild.

Her parents made great money, so it was no surprise when she became the sole recipient of his entire estate.

She transferred the money, rented the farmland around his home, but kept the house itself since it's close enough to her parents' house. All of these decisions OP made by herself.

She didn't discuss it with her husband, considering their rule about each other's inheritance. Recently, their landlord approached OP to tell her he was selling the townhomes OP's family was living in.

OP got worried about how it would impact their family as well as their budget. OP made the decision to purchase the building herself with her combined inheritance and savings.

When he learned about this, the husband told her he wanted OP to deposit part of the rental income into their family account to be used for fun.

OP gladly reminded her husband about their agreement, and since she purchased their home, they didn't have rent to pay. He got angry and called OP an a**hole for refusing to share her money.

Zealousideal_Fly4786

The infuriating story is below:

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"With his money..."

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"He says I am being the A for not sharing the money coming in."

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OP added an update after reading all of the brilliant suggestions from Reddit.

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"He was shocked."

Zealousideal_Fly4786

Yeah, OP, why?

Suitable-Cod-1381

This was not the only comment suggesting a divorce.

HELLOW_102

The bulleted list is very enlightening, and OP should most definitely talk to a lawyer.

GoodGirlsGrace GoodGirlsGrace GoodGirlsGrace

OP is now a multiple-property owner. She can easily escape him if she wants to.

3rd-time-lucky

He turned that rule around really fast once he realized OP has a small fortune.

kawaeri

They pull it out of thin air.

Maleficent_Mistake50

Truly the best comment.

GeneralDismal6410

The money they were putting toward rent will now be the fun money, but he somehow wanted more?

Music_withRocks_In

That's 2k fun money for dear husband. Greedy.

Zealousideal_Fly4786

She really should.

Suitable-Cod-1381

OP's dad sounds like a great guy.

Zealousideal_Fly4786

He doesn't have the best history budgeting a lot of money.

rhetorical_twix

This is a boundary the husband cannot cross, no matter what. He put it there in the first place.

MissContrariwise

It's OP's only choice.

lotus_eater123

It's for her and her children if the husband pulls more stunts like this in the future.

KelzTheRedPanda

The husband needs solo therapy sessions.

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OP answered some of Reddit's questions.

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She is a smart, savvy lady, and we like her.

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Good for you, OP! Good for you!

AltLawyer, Zealousideal_Fly4786

We are all itching for an update.

GOTGameOfThrowaway

OP will have a blast hitting the slopes without the weight of her husband.

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Can he be trusted to be alone with the kids?

pinapple_whore

Thankfully, OP's aunt is there just in case.

Zealousideal_Fly4786

Do not let him go with you on your trip, OP!

internationalnomad96

From that story, OP sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders. She has so far made all the right decisions to protect herself as well as her children.

She has done a great job, and she can only be better once she's back from her fabulous trip. After what her husband put her through, OP deserves to make time for herself.