Woman Believes Husband Is Financially Controlling Her, Redditors Have Different Opinions

Although most people are aware that they should set aside a percentage of their income for savings, they may not fully appreciate the advantages of doing so. For a variety of reasons, including helping you prepare for future expenses, handle financial stress, and take vacations, saving is a crucial habit to develop.

Knowing the various benefits of saving can encourage you to increase your savings. Financial stability, handling unforeseen costs, and achieving life objectives like home ownership or retirement all depend on saving money.

But when it turns into extreme or excessive saving, sometimes referred to as extreme frugality or stinginess, it can have drawbacks. The original poster of today's story loves her husband, but he’s ridiculous about money.

It’s basically the only thing they fight over, and the OP has told him it’s the only thing she considers leaving him over. OP's husband went ahead to enforce a strict rule of only $150 each per month for non-necessities.

This was a whole other fight, but the OP reluctantly agreed. Now OP's hourly pay goes directly to their joint account, which she's fine with but her credit card tips from the salon load onto a debit card at the end of each shift automatically.

The OP has been using this as her "fun" money, but it was about to become a big deal for her husband.

The headline

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Money is basically the only thing the OP and her husband fight over

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All OP's hourly pay goes directly to their joint account

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OP's tip money is like a bonus to her and not part of her standard income

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I don’t like that I feel I need to keep money that’s my own and that might make me an AH.

And the comments roll in...

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Tips are income

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Resolving things with help

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The OP left this important info in the comments section

His father ran out on them when he was a kid and he basically took over the finances for a family of four at a ridiculously young age. I understand that it’s fear but it doesn’t make it any easier for me.He actually only agreed to a joint checking account after having a free phone therapy session where the guy basically told him he was being selfish and didn’t have a team mentality of money. Which I thought was a huge leap in the right direction until he came up with the limited budget.

It should be agreed upon

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No way

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A big old fight

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Adjusting the budget

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A financially coercive relationship

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Being financially abused

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The OP added this edit to clarify some certain things

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We can all agree that the first step to start saving money is by figuring out how much you spend on different things. Then, you make a budget and stick to it but it seems OP's husband is overdoing things.

While some Redditors supported the OP's actions, the rest were in favor of the husband. In the end, the story got an "everyone sucks" verdict. Having a different thought about the whole thing?

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