Husband Sleeps On The Floor After Blaming Wife For Unclean Bed

Marriage vows emphasize sticking with each other for better or for worse. Planning to be with someone means having that person by your side when unexpected problems arise, and of course, you want to feel secure that they won’t bolt.

But when problems actually do occur, you should still remember each other's limits; otherwise, both of you are going to break under the pressure. It would be hard to uphold your promise of staying through sickness and in health if the one who is sick takes advantage of the kindness they are given.

A Redditor took to the subreddit r/AmItheA**hole to ask people if she was really in the wrong when she refused to clean her husband’s bed, who had a medical condition and was forced to sleep on the floor. It sounds bad, we admit, but OP recounted the story.

She provided a brief background on why her husband had his own bed and continued with the problems he faced with his medication. While the medication helped him manage part of his condition, it also had the side effect of causing him to involuntarily urinate while he sleeps.

As someone who relies heavily on OP, cleaning his bed was one of the responsibilities she took on. The doctor made suggestions on how to make OP’s life less tiring, but the husband was too stubborn, and that’s how the problem started.

This is the post from OP

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OP described their home situation to start

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She described her responsibilities as his spousal caregiver and the current major issue

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The husband was too stubborn to listen to or try different methods to prevent himself from making a mess every night

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And he promised to improve, but since it was out of his control, in the end, it was still OP cleaning it all up

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One night, he shouted for OP to clean up after him, but she ignored him after becoming fed up

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OP found him sleeping on a spare mattress on the floor, and he immediately blamed her for it

He made more excuses and became even more stubborn in his refusal to try methods that would help him make less of a mess.

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OP put her foot down, and then the husband and his sister had the audacity to blame her for not doing everything she could to help her husband despite their bad behavior

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The husband has a distorted view of what it means to be a man

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He was so used to her constantly serving him that he forgot, first and foremost, that she is his wife

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There should be an abundance of gratitude instead of entitlement

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It was something he couldn't control, but there were also preventative measures he could have taken

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The sister is too quick to side with her brother without hearing about OP's struggles

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When she wasn't even doing the bare minimum, unlike OP, who had to devote all her time to taking care of her husband

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Maybe she'll understand why OP feels the way she does

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Others in the thread pointed out that OP's husband's masculinity shouldn't be an excuse for his behavior

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Another perspective on masculinity

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The men who pointed this out came from different generations

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One Redditor shared a similar experience

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There comes a time when OP's husband must be accountable for the consequences he faces due to his stubbornness

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And then they try to micromanage without lifting a finger

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In addition to seeking help for the husband's physical needs, it would be beneficial for him to get support for his mental health so he can learn to recognize his mistakes and cope

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A Redditor, like OP, suggested a way that would provide OP with some breathing room and protection

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It's a support group, and if OP wants to stick around her husband, she will need to join something like this

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There are even witnesses who deem it a great idea

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It hurts to see your loved ones sick, and if you could give them your best, you might choose to do so. In OP's case, however, her worth wasn't recognized by anyone anymore, and she was treated as less than she deserved.

What do you think OP should do? You can share your thoughts with us in the comments.