Is It Wrong to Be Upset Over In-Laws Favoring One of Our Kids?

Some families swear they “love all the grandkids equally,” but this one is clearly playing favorites, and it’s starting fights in the most awkward way possible. The original poster is watching her in-laws pour extra attention into her son, while her daughter gets treated like she’s optional.

Here’s the messy part: the OP’s stepdaughter (her husband’s first child) came from a complicated situation, and after she joined the family, the in-laws tried to ignore her or act like she wasn’t really family. Then OP got pregnant with their second child, and suddenly the older sister and mom had rules, boundaries, and selective visits, even though OP asked them not to favor one kid over the other.

What should be a simple visit routine is turning into a daily reminder that one child gets photos and attention, while the other gets left waiting.

Original Post

My partner who is 21m and I 21f have two kids. Our first child came from a complicated situation, but then on his family has tried to ignore her or try to treat her like she isn’t family.

A couple months after we had her I ended up being pregnant with our second child.

Everyone respected that besides his mom and older sister because his mom in general only wanted to get to our kids because his older sister cut her off from her child due to what his mom‘s boyfriend has been doing. The only thing I asked from the older sister and younger sister was not not to do that (favorite one over the other)His younger sister always comes around, always always asked to play with both of the kids, his older one only ever ask about him or our son recently, she asked for just photo’s (for a photo album) of him and William.

I feel bad because I don’t want our daughter or son thinking differently just because she doesn’t ask for her’s, but I don’t know. Am I in the wrong

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This is giving the same workplace chaos as the coworker who’s chronically late, and the manager who finally confronts them.

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The older sister and the mom can’t seem to stop circling back to the son, even though OP explicitly asked them to treat both kids the same.

After the older sister cut off the mom over her boyfriend’s behavior, the family’s “rules” for visits somehow got aimed at the daughter first.

The younger sister shows up constantly, asking to play with both children, but the older sister mostly asks about the son and wants only photos of him.

Now OP is stuck trying to figure out whether she’s wrong for being upset that her daughter is being quietly erased from the family story.</p>

What do you think about this situation? Let us know in the comments.

The son is getting the photo album, and OP is wondering why her daughter is the one being left out.

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