Is it Wrong to Keep Souvenirs from Places I Visited with an Ex?
AITA for keeping photos and fridge magnets from travels with an ex? Girlfriend believes it's reminiscing over the past, but I see them as my own memories.
Keeping souvenirs from past trips should be harmless, right? But in this Reddit post, a simple habit like saving photos and fridge magnets from places visited with an ex turned into a full-on relationship argument.
OP says the pictures are just landscapes and landmarks, like the Colosseum in Rome, and the magnets are tiny keepsakes from the locations themselves. No ex photos, no inside jokes, no “remember when.” Still, OP’s current girlfriend has “lost her head” over it multiple times, convinced the magnets mean OP is emotionally stuck on the ex.
Now OP is stuck defending the idea that the ex belongs in the past, while his girlfriend is treating the souvenirs like evidence.
Original Post
I’ve done a fair bit of travelling and a few of those places I’ve visited were with an ex. Like anyone else, I like to take pictures of these places and I also like to get a fridge magnet everywhere I visit just as a souvenir. My current girlfriend has lost her head at me multiple times over this and I genuinely don’t see what I’m doing wrong.
None of these pictures include my ex; they’re pictures of landscapes and landmarks of places I always wanted to visit, like the Colosseum in Rome, for example. The magnets are literally just little keepsakes from whatever place they’re from. Again, there is no connection to my ex. She seems to think I’m reminiscing over my ex when the way I see it is that my ex is in the past, but these are also my individual experiences and memories. Why should I have to delete them from existence when, to me, they no longer have any correlation to my ex?
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OP is out here collecting Colosseum-level memories, while his girlfriend is treating every fridge magnet like a secret message from the ex.
The argument escalates because OP insists the ex is not in the photos, yet his girlfriend keeps reading the trip history as lingering nostalgia.
It gets messier when OP says the magnets are just “little keepsakes,” but the girlfriend’s reaction suggests she’s hearing something else entirely.
With the comments rolling in from u/Twisted_Spinster and the rest of the thread, everyone’s basically forced to pick a side on whether souvenirs can be innocent.
Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.
OP might be keeping magnets from Rome, but his girlfriend is the one who can’t stop seeing the ex.
Wait until you see how one person handled family reunion drama after refusing to host again, when relatives questioned their decision.
