Is it Wrong to Sell My Exs Trucks to Cover Unpaid Bills?

A 28-year-old woman just tried to keep her life from freezing over, and it turned into a full-on Reddit moral debate. After years of being shut out of money by her stbx husband, she discovered the power and water were being neglected, like it was no big deal.

Now they are separated, but the damage was already done. She needs the power back on so she can work her way toward getting her CNA, yet she couldn’t get a personal loan or title loan, and her ex allegedly stole the title to her car. To make things happen fast, she decided to sell his two trucks, one wrecked and one barely-running project that he barely touched for almost five years.

So the question hits hard: was selling the trucks the only move she had, or did it cross a line?

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me and my stbx husband are separated. I was able to get him out after years of a***e at the end of January.

he forced me to be a SAHM and I have never had access to "his" money. I found out shortly after he was out that he had not paid the power bill in, going on 3 months and the water bill in two months.

I am working on getting my CNA and going back to work but the power was cut off and I needed to get it cut back on. going back to work wasn't going to help.

I tried to get a personal loan and a title loan first but couldn't. he stole the title to my car.

I have kids and it was cold so I needed to get the power cut back on immediately. he had two trucks, one was wrecked and the other he had bought as a project but barely worked on in the almost 5 years he had it.

so I decided to sell the trucks to get the money to pay the bills he had been neglecting. so AITA for selling the trucks?

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She’s not selling random junk, she’s selling the only assets tied to the bills her stbx husband let slide for months, including the power being cut off in the middle of winter.

When the personal loan and title loan fail, and the car title gets stolen too, the “wait it out” plan basically disappears for her and her kids.

The trucks become the emergency solution, even though one is wrecked and the other is a project he barely worked on for nearly five years.

Now that she’s trying to pay the power back on and get back to work, she has to wonder if Reddit is going to call that survival or selfishness.

How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.

Selling the trucks might be the one decision that keeps her kids warm, and now she’s stuck paying the price in judgment.

Before you decide what to do with money in a crisis, read about the woman who refused to lend her struggling bakery brother money.