Deaf Daughter Gives Parents Ultimatum After They Spent Years Refusing To Learn Sign Language

When a family member loses their hearing, the people closest to them can make all the difference, or make everything harder. In this case, a woman who became deaf after a serious accident says her parents spent years refusing to learn American Sign Language, even as she kept asking them to meet her halfway.

She was 18 when the accident changed her life, and now, at 26, she says she has rebuilt a happy life with one major exception: her relationship with her parents. After repeated attempts to get them to learn ASL, she finally drew a line, and that decision sparked a family conflict that ended up on Reddit.

Now the internet is weighing in on whether she went too far, or whether her parents pushed her there first. Read on.

No, you should definitely not stay where your presence is not valued, even if it is your parent's house.

u/basketsoftough

Kudos to her for doing it all on her own! It is quite difficult to rise and shine after being in depression.

That is where the family tension really starts to show.

Things change when there is a slightly disabled person in the house; they may start feeling like a burden to the caregivers.

u/basketsoftough

It is so rude of them not to support their daughter, who is trying to get her life back on track.

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Pack your things and leave right away! That is pure evil!

u/basketsoftough

Do they not understand that it is not your fault if you cannot listen to them?

u/basketsoftough

Her frustration is pretty easy to understand.

It’s the same kind of pressure as the struggling son demanding his parents repay a loan, even while he’s in crisis.

If your parents really cared, you wouldn't even need to tell them; they would have learned ASL on their own.

u/basketsoftough

They want to cut you off and then play the victim card, whereas you are the real victim here.

u/basketsoftough

They are clearly doing this on purpose because captions may be annoying, but what about the child who would not understand anything on the screen?

u/basketsoftough

Exactly, now the daughter cannot learn how to hear, but the parents certainly can learn how to communicate in sign language.

u/basketsoftough

They should be proud of her for overcoming such a significant trauma and not inflicting more trauma on her.

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If the parents love their children, they should be willing to do everything for them.

u/basketsoftough

People in the comments did not hold back.

They might be busy earning a living and may not have time, but things like no subtitles and shouting at her are not justified.

u/basketsoftough

The parents not only seem selfish but also irresponsible for not caring for a child with a hearing disability.

u/basketsoftough

This girl seems to be really happy with the deaf community, and that's where she should be.

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I cannot agree more!

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Learning sign language is not a difficult task, and where there is love, nothing is impossible.

u/basketsoftough

All these little things matter, especially to a child who wants nothing but love and support from their parents.

u/basketsoftough

It is unfortunate to see parents neglecting their children after a terrible accident. Ignoring the child's needs and doing things that make them feel worse about their already difficult situation is truly cruel.

Share this story with all your friends and family and let them know that their kids expect only attention, love, and care from them. Try to be a little more patient with your kids.

Want another ultimatum? See the daughter who refused to financially support her parents after years of guilt-tripping.