Man Accused His Date of Being "Rude and Cheap" Because She Was in the Bathroom When the Check Arrived
"This is why dating is miserable."
A TikTok date story has people cringing for all the wrong reasons. A woman named Nik says a man she met on a dating app went from charming to petty after their night out, then blamed her for being in the bathroom when the check arrived. He later texted that he wanted to see her again, then disappeared before resurfacing with a complaint about how she handled the bill.
She posted the exchange with a blunt caption, and the reaction was immediate. Now the internet is weighing in on whether this was a simple misunderstanding or a major red flag.
Nik took to TikTok to vent her frustration after her date accused her of being "rude and cheap."
TikTok/__nikk1She had matched with the man on a dating app, and they really hit it off.
TikTok/__nikk1They met up and spent six hours enjoying each other's company.
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Things seemed to be going well, at least until the messages started getting weird.
Afterward, the man texted Nik to say he really wanted to see her again.
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But then he disappeared.
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Eventually, Nik grew tired of waiting and decided to text the man to find out what was going on.
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Nik wasn't expecting to hear from him again until he reappeared on Christmas.
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Nik shared the man's "half-arsed" reply.
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She explained that she sent him a "very polite" response, along with a photo of her tree.
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She also confronted him about how he had ghosted her.
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Nik wasn't impressed with the excuses she received from the man.
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He mentioned that Nik had "excused herself to go to the bathroom" when the check came during their date.
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Nik explained that she didn't intentionally go to the restroom when the check arrived; she just wanted to use the bathroom before they left.
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The man went on to say he was looking for a woman who "innately feels the need to pay for what they ordered."
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Nik was understandably upset by these accusations.
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She explained that there were many holes in the man's story.
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And why is he bringing up his apparent trust fund?
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Nik shared screenshots of their original conversation to prove her point.
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He seemed perfectly happy with their date at the time.
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His tone had changed entirely.
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Seriously, dude, what the heck?
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People in the comments did not hold back.
Also, this “rude and cheap” fight echoes the etiquette expert story about insisting on separate bills after your date’s behavior.
Here's how people reacted.
"Kind of icky."
TikTok/Alicia King
"Wild!"
TikTok/sabrinameadows21
"Red flag."
TikTok/monnacomedy
Oh, the grammar!
TikTok/eggplantplum
Dude, if you're broke, just say so!
TikTok/jenni.lynne.xo
Thank you, next!
TikTok/athleatsnutrition
You did what?
TikTok/clarenicolehxrt
874%
TikTok/hndrcksn
"I pay for everything. And I'm poor."
TikTok/Glenn Garcia
"Sometimes you just can't win."
TikTok/Vanessa Duckett
"She could at least offer to pay."
TikTok/John Smith
What happened to being a gentleman?
TikTok/Mark Coulson
He's got issues.
TikTok/Carol Schempp
"Not cool. We aren't princesses."
TikTok/Kimberly A. Weber
"Girl, bye!"
TikTok/Brently Carlyle
What about equal rights?
TikTok/Suureen Lewis
Old school.
TikTok/Etta Woodson Patterson
So, was Nik wrong for not offering to pay, or was her date just looking for a fight after the fact?
Either way, the whole thing left a lot of people shaking their heads.
Read on.
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