Man Calls Out His Wife In Front Of Her Family For Being Petty And Putting Her Maiden Name On Their Son’s Birth Certificate, And Now He Asks If He Went Too Far

One Reddit user thought the biggest issue in his marriage was money, until a birth certificate turned the whole family against each other.

He is in a second marriage and has a 16-year-old son from his first relationship, with a college fund he helps support alongside the boy’s grandparents. His new wife wanted him to use that money for a private hospital C-section, he said no, and then she reportedly put her maiden name on their son’s birth certificate after making threats to do it.

Now the argument has spilled into the family, and the comments are doing plenty of picking sides. Read on.

OP Asked a Question

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And Shared His Story. This Is His Second Marriage. He Has a 16-Year-Old Son From His First Marriage, and He Contributes to His College Fund With His Grandparents.

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His New Wife Requested That He Dip Into That College Fund to Pay for a C-Section in a Private Hospital. OP Said No.

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The situation got tense fast, and the money issue was only part of it.

He Stated That the Free Hospitals in the Area Are Good and That All of His Family and Friends Had Their Babies There.

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She Made Some Threats and Didn’t Want Him to Join Her at the Hospital.

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OP Saw His Son for the First Time When His Wife Brought Him Home. He Was Shocked When He Found Out That She Had Given Him Her Maiden Last Name.

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That’s when the birth certificate became the real flashpoint.

He Was Ushered From the Room by His Mother-in-Law. She Told Him That What Her Daughter Did Was Wrong, but He Was to Blame Because He Didn’t Respect Her Wishes. His Parents Are Angry and Don’t Even Want to Visit.

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Some Redditors Agreed With OP About the Sanctity of the College Fund but Mentioned That He Should’ve Tried to Find Other Ways of Financing the C-Section in a Private Hospital.

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Others Needed More Info...

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Some readers were already looking at the name choice as a power move.

About Money and Hospitals...

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And Verbalized What Most of Us Are Thinking:

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It Looks That Way:

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That family dinner energy was not exactly calm.

This is similar to the sister-in-law who demanded baby savings during a financial crisis.

Some People Even Draw the Birth Card. Whoever Gives Birth Gets to Name the Baby.

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And They Had Support:

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But Some People Shared Their Experiences and Commented on the Situation Objectively:

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Plenty of commenters thought the money and the name issue were both part of a bigger mess.

Redditors Mostly Believe That the College Fund Shouldn't Be Tampered With.

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One Redditor Made an Excellent Point.

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Power Play, Indeed.

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The comments kept circling back to control, not just conflict.

A Woman With Two C-Sections Wrote:

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It Is Not Just OP’s Money...

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This Is the General Feeling.

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New Wife Has Her Heart Set on That Fund...

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The Newborn Is Just a Pawn in This Game for Her.

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Unfortunately, it seems that this couple’s problems go deeper, and this last name incident is just the final straw. Using kids as pawns in power plays is really low, but unfortunately, some parents do this.

It doesn’t appear that this couple has much of a future together, but we hope it works out for them.

Now he is left wondering if he went too far, or if this marriage was already headed for trouble.

Want another money-versus-priorities blowup, see the dad who argued over splitting finances for their baby’s college fund.