Woman Refuses To Pay For Her Husband’s Celebration Dinner

Separate finances in marriage are a touchy subject. Most people would agree that they are entirely acceptable while in a relationship, even when living together, but there is something unsettling about it when starting a family.

Many marriages are hampered by financial disagreements. It's no surprise that economic issues are a top cause of divorce when over a third of individuals with partners say money is a major source of tension in their relationships.

You may not realize that the difficulties can begin even before you say, "I do." Millennials are doing things differently than previous generations once again.

According to a Bank of America survey, 28% of newlyweds are foregoing the typical joint bank account to keep their funds entirely separate. That's more than double the percentage of Gen X and baby boomer couples who segregate their finances.

One of the most common reasons for this is the fear of divorce. Well, at least that's what the surveys indicate.

But maybe it's because we are more self-centered than older generations? Regardless of the reason for separate finances, if you make such an arrangement, you should adhere to it.

Redditor u/Valley-Mountains3453 posted an interesting question: "AITA for refusing to pay for my husband and his family's meals at the restaurant?"

And before judging, take a look at her story. It is intriguing.

OP asks:

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OP explains: She and her husband have separate finances, and he sometimes cheats....

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OP's husband received a bonus at work and wanted to take his family out to celebrate. When the party was over, he asked OP to pick up the check.

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OP didn't want to pay because it was his plan.

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OP's husband hadn't received his bonus yet, so he assumed she would pay.

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OP's in-laws were very upset with her.

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Her husband is still upset.

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Redditors mostly agree with OP.

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And they find the "might pay back" part annoying.

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Also, her husband is spending money he hasn't received yet.

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But he is not spending his own money.

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That's the assumption, yes.

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Is a bonus really a cause for celebration?

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He didn't discuss payment with OP before the event.

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And he should have.

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That was the plan, apparently.

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Good term, indeed.

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He could've asked to borrow money.

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OP posted an update.

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They've continued arguing.

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OP promised to post new updates soon.

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Many couples have separate finances in case of divorce. This is especially common among people whose parents are divorced.

They believe their assets would be protected. However, divorce experts say that's a common misconception.

Just because your name is on the account or the deed to the house doesn't mean it's yours alone, especially if you're in the process of getting a divorce.

"People will think, 'Well, the house is in my name, so I get to keep it,' or 'I put all of my income into my own separate bank account, so it's all mine,'" according to Susan Guthrie, a family law attorney.But that's "100% wrong," she says. No matter your state's laws, once you get married, you should never just assume that your assets will remain yours if you get a divorce.