Teen Gets Dragged Online For Not Letting His GF's "Mean" Mom Into His Apartment

Some people don’t realize “guest policy” is basically a relationship landmine until it explodes in public, and this Reddit thread is proof. One teen blocked his girlfriend’s mom from coming into his apartment, and that single decision turned into a full-on online dragging session.

Here’s the mess: the OP and his girlfriend have been together for over a year, they share the apartment now, and the mom decided she could drop in whenever she wanted. OP says he didn’t want her there because she’s “mean,” but he made the call without involving his girlfriend. Then his girlfriend flipped it on him, calling him an AH, and Reddit had a lot to say about whether he was protecting himself or quietly taking control.

Now he’s stuck wondering if his feelings were valid, or if he handled it in the worst possible way.

The OP writes...

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"You know, you shouldn't worry about her like that. She got a bad grade at school today."

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They had been together for over a year at that point

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She decided she could come to OP's house whenever she wanted

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When OP mentions the mom got a “bad grade” excuse and still wants access to the apartment, the comments immediately start side-eyeing the whole story.</p>

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. I forbade my girlfriend's mother from visiting our apartment. 2. My girlfriend told me I was an AH, and I think I could really have done something wrong. I want to know what Reddit users think about this.

Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story

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This is similar to a roommate refusing to split a cat’s vet bill after their pet caused damage.

They both share the apartment now so it should be a joint decision

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You have to make concessions if you want your relationship to thrive

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If the mom wants to sabotage the relationship, the OP just aided it

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This is sounding borderline abusive, making the OP's girlfriend reliant on him

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This is entirely from the OP's point of view

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The OP isn't an AH for his feelings but he failed to involve his GF in his decision

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For this Redditor, the OP is softly the AH

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The “we share the apartment now” detail is where people zero in, because OP’s girlfriend was not part of the decision he made.</p>

Once the thread points out that OP might have helped the mom sabotage the relationship, the tone swings from “feelings” to “control.”</p>

By the time Redditors argue the girlfriend should have a real voice in the guest policy, OP’s defense starts sounding shaky even to readers rooting for him.</p>

Things like this are one of the reasons young relationships end - That boring adult issues that require consideration, discussion and compromise. Many Redditors agree that OP's girlfriend ought to have a voice in the guest policy if she lives there.

They've become incompatible if they can't reach a consensus where everyone feels valued and that their requirements are satisfied. In all, the OP was declared the AH and that's a wrap.

He might not have meant to, but by banning the mom without his girlfriend’s buy-in, he gave everyone a reason to call him the problem.

For a different kind of pet power struggle, read about a boyfriend demanding declawing after a baby got scratched.