Woman Figures Out Her Future Mother-In-Law Is a Notorious Snoop, So She Leaves Embarrassing Self-Affirmations for Her to Find
"My teeth will regrow! I am sharklike and powerful!"
Some family visits come with small talk, snacks, and a little awkwardness. This one came with snooping, side-eye, and a future mother-in-law who could not resist opening drawers that were not hers to open.
OP has been with her fiancé, Al, for four years, and the couple only moved in together this year. Most of the furniture and belongings in the house still belong to OP, which makes Al’s mom’s habit of digging through their things even more irritating, especially since OP is the one whose privacy keeps getting invaded.
When Al’s mom mocked a tiny affirmation note OP had left in her office, OP decided to get creative. That is where the story takes a very petty turn.
With the help of her friend, OP made a bunch of fake affirmation notes and left them around the house for Al's mom to find during her next snooping adventure.
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jemmi44"She's just going through my stuff."
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Here are some of the best affirmation notes OP and her friend wrote:
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That plan worked faster than expected.
It worked because Al's mom definitely found them; she started to act strangely around OP.
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When OP went out to run some errands, OP's future mother-in-law talked to Al about OP's egotistical and unstable nature.
She told Al it was a bad idea to move in with OP and showed him the prank affirmation notes. Al didn't have a clue how to react and asked OP what they were.
OP explained that they were just silly notes to boost her self-esteem and to make herself laugh. She asked Al how his mom got them and if she had been poking through her things.
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And of course, the snooping came with a new complaint.
Al said his mom was cleaning when she found them and thought they were weird.
OP defended herself by saying that Al should know by now that she's just an odd person, and if he didn't want his mom finding OP's "weird stuff," then he should stop her from going through her things.
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Al asked if OP left the notes to annoy his mom.
She admitted that they were a silly joke, but she actually had issues with her going through her private things and that he should stop her before she finds something that is truly weird. Al said that OP is putting him in an awkward position.
He excused his mom's behavior by saying she's just really protective of him and needs to adjust to the idea of him moving in with a girlfriend for the first time. He said OP's prank was giving his mom the impression that OP wouldn't be a good partner for him when he's trying to make them get along.
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Is OP at fault here? Reddit certainly doesn't think so, and they believe she should have gone bolder with the notes.
Aunty_Fascist
OP almost went for it with the ~interesting~ items Al's mom could find, but she admits she did get frustrated with the invasion of privacy.
jemmi44
She's seriously considering just having a conversation to lay it all out to Al's mom.
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Reddit had plenty to say about the situation.
Commenters think OP has an opportunity to re-evaluate the situation here.
metalmorian
Going forward with this marriage to Al (and his mom) doesn't seem like a sound decision.
metalmorian
Al is not ready to leave the nest, and his mother is unlikely to let him.
ofcbrooks
Neither makes Al look good by any standards.
Throw-a-Ru
The last quote from the other subreddit is definitely sobering, and OP should read it.
Cantarella702
Al's mom is a prime example of a person who should be told NO.
justchillinghbu87
OP can try to play it this way if the snooping doesn't stop.
BabyAlibi
If Al's mom doesn't respect OP's boundaries, she's bound to find the fun drawer.
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More commenters focused on Al than on his mom.
It's confusing that he doesn't.
urson_black
But after reading this answer from OP, we are getting a better picture of Al.
jemmi44
The problem here is beyond the invasion of privacy, and OP should really think twice before getting sucked into Al's (and his mom's) issues.
thistheremixhere
Al is a 25-year-old man.
cinnnamonstixx
OP will eventually realize she was right all along; let's hope she doesn't act on that too late.
cardinal29
Setting boundaries is normal and healthy, OP!
cardinal29
Tell her to stop snooping, and if she doesn't, ban her from your house, OP.
gw2kpro
It's obvious that his mom is his priority.
0biterdicta
The real lesson here is: OP is hilarious and can do so much better than Al and his mom (let's face it, they're a package deal).
Darkrai_35
Write these down, friends.
[deleted], MaeBelleLien
On a bad day, repeat that you are sharklike and powerful! OP truly did nothing wrong in this situation; she was being spied on in her own home, and her significant other refused to back her up.
OP should stand firm on this because this issue could definitely be a deal-breaker. With affirmations like that, OP will eventually realize that she's too good for the likes of Al and his mom!
And for another boundary battle, read about the roommate who asked her boyfriend to move out.
