Mom Makes Up Unreasonable Rules For Her Family Before They Could See Her Newborn Baby

Parents will go to extremes to protect their babies, especially a newborn. This is understandable, particularly in these times when there are many dangers that could affect them.

However, there is a line that screams entitlement rather than protection. Some parents provide a list of what to strictly bring for them and their babies whenever they visit, rather than a list of what they want to avoid to ensure their baby isn't harmed.

Families are then torn between seeing the baby and having to bend over backward just to follow each rule. An example would be this OP who posted under the subreddit r/AITAH.

She asked Redditors if she was really the a**hole after listing out the rules she made for her newborn, which caused her sister-in-law to miss seeing the baby despite being in the area for a few months.

The list consists of bringing groceries, gift cards, and doing chores during the visit. OP's SIL made a compromise because she was broke, but still, OP and her husband didn't relent.

OP justified that if they gave their SIL leniency, then they would have to unfairly do that for the rest of the family. The family stated that they were okay with bending the rules for the SIL, considering her situation.

Conflict continued, and they went into low contact with the family. When they tried to reach out to the sister, she no longer returned their calls.

This is OP's problem

No_Letter_1344

OP had the list sent out before their baby was born

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The rules started practically

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Then continued to be ridiculous

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They brought up the issue of their SIL visiting, who was only going to be in their area for a few months

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The SIL tried to ask them to compromise since she was broke

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They said no, and she tried again, but they wouldn't relent

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The family of OP's husband was ignored after they were told that they were wrong for what they were doing

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When things cooled down and they tried to reach out to the sister, it was too late, and she didn't return their calls anymore.

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Reasonable. Reasonable. Reasona-- wait, can you repeat that rule again?

ToPiggyback

It's weird to have specific requests that involve money just to let someone see your kid

Lookatthatderp

They might be putting their kid on an unattainable pedestal for the family

ToPiggyback

They might've had a plan before the baby was even born

Advanced-Extent-420

The baby would have to suffer the consequences of their actions

TheUnkind1

The groceries that they were requiring her to bring might have been her own groceries for college

xilaquil

Don't forget the chores

TheLizardsCometh

OP might've thought that things like this happen for royal...

DDecimal

families would work if her family wanted to see her baby badly enough

DDecimal

Someone listed all the reasons why OP is the a**hole

Loreo1964

The sister-in-law could've said no, but instead, she desperately tried to compromise because she really wanted to see their baby

Gimmecheesenow

It's like babysitters paying those who asked to babysit for them

sortaangrypeanut

An understatement for the whole post

Loreo1964

OP and her husband's family might choose to go NC. No one wins, and their kid might suffer because of it

stoicsticks

The irony of OP's statement is very apparent

pixiep48

The baby could've had family see them within reason, but with OP's rules, nobody would enjoy seeing their newborn grow other than them

tryandbereasonable14

There are many families that are broken and simply don't care if they see each other or not. OP is lucky to have a sister-in-law who loves their kid so much that she would compromise with their strict rules.

If they continue to do as they please and refuse to bend on what they want, especially regarding money-related matters, then everyone might stop considering talking to them at all. Their baby might bear the burden of their consequences when they grow up.

Do you think OP was right or wrong in this situation? Let us know in the comments.