Parent Who's Planning Not To See Her Daughter Anymore After She Turns 18 Gets Shut Down By Internet Users
Since she will no longer have any legal responsibility for her after she turns 18, she doesn't want her in her life anymore.
A mother's love cannot be replaced by anything else in the world, which is why being intentionally rejected by your mom can potentially break your soul and heart. Many parents refuse to continue supporting their children after they turn 18, but it's mostly just the financial aspect of things.
This mother shocked the internet when she asked the Quora community whether she should tell her daughter that she no longer wants to be in her life after she turns 18. The backlash she received was brutal but helpful nonetheless.
Bored Panda conducted an interview with the president of the nonprofit organization Let Grow, Lenore Skenazy, an organization dedicated to fighting overprotection and promoting the independence of kids. They spoke about parenting, children, and the topic of kids leaving home:
“A teacher, coach, grandparent, or, of course, a parent who thinks you are terrific and ready to wow the world can make all the difference.”
“A parent saying, ‘Leave when you’re 18’ can be that person, voicing incredible confidence that the child can make it (even if the child is less sure). But the ‘Leave!’ could also be weary disdain: ‘Get out already. I’m washing my hands of you. Goodbye and good luck.’ Whether the message this parent is sending is one of trust or disgust will have a much greater impact on that child than simply being expected to live on their own,” Lenore explained.“The best way to ensure that a child starting out in the world feels their parents believe in them—rather than simply being fed up—is for the parent to make it explicit! ‘I have watched you grow up and seen how you work things out when faced with challenges, and I believe this next chapter will test you—and you will do great. It may not be easy, because important things rarely are, but you will be happier and stronger for it,’” she provided as an example of how things could be done.She continued: “Also: ‘While it’s time for you to make your way, that doesn’t mean you are leaving my heart. I will always love you and hope we see a lot of each other. This is a new chapter for us both, and I wish us both well!’” Now that is a healthy, mature response to a child leaving home and becoming independent.
Here's how people on the internet reacted to the mother's post:
