Parent Who's Planning Not To See Her Daughter Anymore After She Turns 18 Gets Shut Down By Internet Users
Since she will no longer have any legal responsibility for her after she turns 18, she doesn't want her in her life anymore.
A mother on Quora sparked a wave of backlash after asking whether she should tell her daughter that she no longer wants a relationship once the girl turns 18. The question hit a nerve because it was not about money, rules, or a messy argument, it was about a parent planning an emotional cutoff.
The situation quickly drew attention online, where people reacted strongly to the idea of a parent walking away at the exact moment a child is becoming an adult. The story also caught the eye of Bored Panda, which reached out to the president of Let Grow, Lenore Skenazy, for a broader take on kids growing up and leaving home.
That response only made the conversation more pointed, and the internet had plenty to say about it.
Image credits: Mish Sukharev (not the actual photo)
A parent saying, ‘Leave when you’re 18’ can be that person, voicing incredible confidence that the child can make it, even if the child is less sure. But the ‘Leave!’ could also be weary disdain: ‘Get out already. I’m washing my hands of you. Goodbye and good luck.’ Whether the message this parent is sending is one of trust or disgust will have a much greater impact on that child than simply being expected to live on their own.
The best way to ensure that a child starting out in the world feels their parents believe in them, rather than simply being fed up, is for the parent to make it explicit! ‘I have watched you grow up and seen how you work things out when faced with challenges, and I believe this next chapter will test you, and you will do great. It may not be easy, because important things rarely are, but you will be happier and stronger for it,’ she provided as an example of how things could be done.
She continued: ‘Also: While it’s time for you to make your way, that doesn’t mean you are leaving my heart. I will always love you and hope we see a lot of each other. This is a new chapter for us both, and I wish us both well!’ Now that is a healthy, mature response to a child leaving home and becoming independent.
Here's how people on the internet reacted to the mother's post:
This person did not hold back.
Another reaction lands hard.
This also echoes the niece situation, where backing her cut-off decision sparked backlash.
The comments kept getting sharper.
That was not the response she was hoping for.
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