Redditor Abandons Colleague He Was Supposed To Help Move, Leading To Her Losing Her Stuff And Getting Kicked Out

Some people don’t recognize a favor, and this college move turned into a full-blown mess because of it. OP had a truck, his colleague Jane asked for help, and it sounded simple enough: show up, load stuff, and get her to the new place.

But the details kept getting weirder. OP was supposedly supposed to help move everything, while Jane somehow expected him to handle the boxes too, and she wasn’t exactly prepared. When OP realized she hadn’t set anything up and her attitude kept sliding into complaints about him not being a “good friend,” he stepped away.

Then OP found out the rest, and it got ugly fast, because Jane’s stuff was gone and she got kicked out.

OP is a college student and he has a truck

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One of OP's colleagues, a 21-year-old girl, asked him to help move her stuff

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The situation described highlights the psychological implications of unmet expectations, particularly in interpersonal relationships.

OP was shocked that none of the stuff was prepared to move

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The colleague expected OP to pay for the boxes

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OP thought the move would be straightforward, then he showed up and discovered Jane’s stuff wasn’t even ready to pack.

From a behavioral perspective, failure to follow through on commitments can often stem from avoidant coping mechanisms.

She kept complaining that OP was not being a good friend

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OP later found out that all of the girl's stuff was removed and that she was thrown out

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Jane kept pushing the “you’re not a good friend” line while OP was stuck paying the price for her lack of prep.

This is also like the AITA post where someone skipped a family vacation to prioritize their partner’s urgent health.

Accountability is a crucial component of healthy relationships, especially in collaborative situations.

OP is now wondering if he's in the wrong for leaving her

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She was trying to take advantage of OP's kindness

u/backyardchick

The moment Jane expected OP to buy the boxes too, the whole “social contract” vibe flipped into a straight-up one-sided deal.

When commitments are made, they create a social contract that both parties expect to be honored.

Sounds too bizarre to be true

u/warclonex

Professionals get paid

u/LadyPurpleButterfly

After OP left, Jane’s belongings were removed and she ended up getting thrown out, so now he’s stuck wondering if he caused it.

Jane’s expectation that OP would not only move her things but also buy her moving supplies was unreasonable. She didn’t prepare at all and seemed to expect OP to do everything for her.

Jane’s subsequent loss of her belongings and deposit was unfortunate, but it wasn’t OP’s responsibility.

OP has valid reasons for what he did

u/Haleston

NTA

u/Justrennt

Practical Solutions for Navigating Commitments

Setting realistic expectations can prevent misunderstandings and frustrations later on.

The Redditor's abandonment of his colleague during a crucial moment not only led to her losing her belongings but also created a ripple effect that jeopardized her living situation. This serves as a reminder that expectations must be managed and commitments honored, especially when one party is relying on the other for support.

By nurturing a culture where responsibilities are clearly outlined and open dialogue is encouraged, individuals can prevent misunderstandings and foster stronger collaborations. In a college setting, where friendships and partnerships are often formed out of necessity, the consequences of unmet expectations can be profound and damaging.

Now he’s wondering if leaving Jane during the move makes him the villain, or if nobody should have to move someone else’s chaos for free.

For another “I’m overwhelmed” dilemma, see the Redditor debating rehoming a messy, overwhelming family dog.