Redditors Roasts Woman For Asking Her BF To Stay With Her And Ditch His New Year Ritual
"He seems quite subdued and miserable himself now"
A 28-year-old woman asked her boyfriend to stay with her for New Year’s, even though he had a whole ritual planned. On paper, it sounds like a simple request for comfort, especially since she claims being around him helps her calm down more than she can on her own.
But the situation got messy fast. Redditors pointed out that he already stayed with her for Christmas, and that asking him to ditch his New Year tradition felt like a new demand, not a compromise. The OP also posted an edit later, saying she might have mishandled things, admitted there were warning signs, and even considered that she should have gone with him so he wouldn’t miss out.
In the comments, the verdict was brutal, and it all comes down to one question: did she ask for support, or did she break an agreement?
The OP writes...
RedditIt's better when he's around as he seems to calm her down better than the OP can
RedditLet's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story
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He's giving the OP as much comfort she's giving him
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This Redditor understands that it has been a rough year for the OP
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It is not fair at all
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The OP can't make her BF responsible for her mental health
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The OP cannot expect the BF to carry her
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The OP clearly broke an agreement
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He stayed with the OP for Christmas
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The OP tried to explain that her boyfriend’s presence calms her down, but commenters still kept circling back to the fact that he was already there for Christmas.
It’s the same kind of public blowup as the grocery line stranger who tried to cut ahead and got shamed.
That’s when people started saying he was basically being treated like the OP’s emotional support system, even though she couldn’t make him responsible for her mental health.
After the OP’s edit admitting she “mishandled the situation,” Redditors weren’t buying it, and they called out that she clearly broke an agreement about his New Year ritual.
By the time the thread ended, everyone was focused on the same detail, he didn’t just show up for her, he already gave up part of the holiday for her.
The OP dropped this edit later on...
I'm concerned and don't wanna get banned as I'm genuinely not trying to argue with people. I am just confused as I just wanted to ask for support, but I accept I probably mishandled the situation and perhaps in hindsight should've seen the warning signs sooner and perhaps we could have worked out a way for me to go with him so he did not miss out. I definitely could have done better so I truly do accept my judgement of AH.
Still, Redditors declared the OP the AH in the story, and she accepted her verdict.
Now he’s probably wondering if he really is the problem, because the timeline makes it look like he’s the one doing the sacrificing.
After the BF stayed with her despite breaking an agreement, see why an AITA post says the debt still wasn’t “cleared” after a friend refused repayment, Friend Refused My Repayment.
