Redditors Roasts Woman For Asking Her BF To Stay With Her And Ditch His New Year Ritual

The Christmas period can be a particularly challenging time for those who have experienced a loss, especially when it's someone significant who played a key role in family gatherings. The sudden absence can leave a profound void, making traditional celebrations feel subdued and awkward.

For someone already struggling with mental health, the added stress and emotional weight of the holiday season can be overwhelming. The pressure to put on a happy face and conform to societal expectations can be suffocating, especially when grief is still raw.

In the midst of this emotional turmoil, it's essential to prioritize one's well-being and seek support from loved ones. Allowing oneself to grieve and process emotions, rather than suppressing them, can be a crucial step towards healing.

OP and her Scottish boyfriend have been together for eight years, with a well-established tradition of spending Christmas with her family and New Year's with his. However, this year's circumstances are far from ordinary.

After the loss of OP's aunt, who was the heart of their family gatherings, the holiday season has been a struggle. OP's mental health has taken a hit, and the thought of being without her boyfriend during this difficult time was unbearable.

When her boyfriend agreed to stay with her instead of attending the New Year's celebration in Scotland, OP felt a mix of relief and guilt. Find out why as you read the full story below.

The OP writes...

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It's better when he's around as he seems to calm her down better than the OP can

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Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story

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He's giving the OP as much comfort she's giving him

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This Redditor understands that it has been a rough year for the OP

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It is not fair at all

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The OP can't make her BF responsible for her mental health

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The OP cannot expect the BF to carry her

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The OP clearly broke an agreement

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He stayed with the OP for Christmas

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The OP dropped this edit later on...

I'm concerned and dont wanna get banned as I'm genuinely not trying to argue with people I am just confused as I just wanted to ask for support, but I accept I probably mishandled the situation and perhaps in hindsight should've seen the warning signs sooner and perhaps we could have worked out a way for me to go with him so he did not miss out. I definitely could have done better so I truly do accept my judgement of AH.

It's clear that the OP is worried about the impact of her decision on her partner and the rest of her family, but she's also struggling to cope with her own emotions. Her boyfriend agreed to stay, but it's also clear he wasn't happy about it.

OP's decision to prioritize her own needs and well-being has likely been a difficult one, but it's clear that her mental health and family issues would have suffered greatly if her boyfriend had left for New Year's celebrations in Scotland. Still, Redditors declared the OP the AH in the story, and she accepted her verdict.