Wife Goes On Kitchen Strike For New Year’s After Husband’s Refusal To Wash Dishes
Thirty years of holiday meals finally hit a breaking point.
For nearly three decades, this couple followed the same holiday routine without much debate. From Thanksgiving turkeys to Christmas prime rib, every celebration came with a home-cooked meal prepared by the woman (OP).
She planned the menus, bought the groceries, cooked everything from scratch, set the table, and cleaned up afterward. This was her way of pouring love into every holiday they shared.
This year looked no different on the surface. Thanksgiving came and went with a full spread and homemade desserts. Christmas followed with a perfectly cooked prime rib and fresh apple pie, crust included.
Even casual holiday dinners meant hours in the kitchen and a sink full of dishes. What changed wasn’t the workload. It was the response.
When she asked her husband to wash a small load of dishes after Christmas dinner, he pushed back. He argued that because he paid for the groceries, the cooking and cleaning were her responsibility.
The same comment surfaced again at Thanksgiving, and then again after another holiday meal. Each time, the message landed harder than the last.
By the time New Year’s Eve came, she felt done. When he asked what she planned to cook, expecting the same traditional meal she’d made every year, she surprised him.
Instead of listing dishes, she said she was making reservations. No prep. No cleanup. No unpaid labor disguised as tradition.
Now he thinks she’s overreacting. But OP sees this as an opportunity to draw a line that should’ve existed years ago.
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This holiday, OP asked her husband to help wash the dishes. However, he complained that he paid for the food; therefore, it was her job to handle kitchen duties
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OP got upset and decided to make reservations at a restaurant instead of cooking like she’s been doing for decades
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When her husband complained about this decision, she doubled down and slammed him for treating her like a personal kitchen staff
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We gathered some interesting reactions from the Reddit community
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“Honestly, it sounds like he wants servants and not a partner. You deserve better.”
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“NTA. Since he claims to be paying for the food I hope he is also paying for your service.”
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“Sorry you're stuck with a selfish and entitled AH husband who's too childish to clean some dishes.”
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“The most common rule in this situation is that whoever cooks gets to sit down after dinner while others do the dishes.”
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Long marriages often survive on routines that go unquestioned for years, until one moment forces everything into the open.
This situation wasn’t really about ham or New Year’s dinner. It was about a lack of empathy and appreciation.
Neither reaction came out of nowhere. One came from habit. The other came from exhaustion.
Sometimes it takes something as small as a sink full of dishes to expose a much bigger imbalance.
What do you think about how this played out? Share your thoughts in the comments.
