Man Gets Offended After His Girlfriend Refuses To Give Him Access To Her Safe Filled With Precious Stones

Relationships are built on trust, and without it, there is an inevitable chance that they will fail in the long run. People must be able to have faith in their partners and be secure enough to let them conduct their business without getting jealous or suspicious, as a relationship filled with distrust will not end well.

Trust must also coexist with open communication, respect, and deep understanding for a relationship to truly work. Without any of these elements, the connection between two partners is bound to fail, especially when there is a lack of comprehension about the things you try to make each other understand.

However, relationships are never easy, and gaining full trust and confidence that your partner will never give you any reason to be angry is a long, winding process that involves months and years of truly knowing each other. Going through this process would be worth it, though, if you genuinely want to be together until the very end.

That said, it is also ideal to be aware of the red flags that your current partner displays because sometimes, the way they try to coerce information out of you can seem downright disrespectful. It's true that you should be able to disclose information to each other truthfully, but there are certain times when some things are just meant to be kept private.

That's the case with this particular Reddit user under the handle u/safegfthrowaway, a gemologist, who shared her dilemma on the AITA subreddit community. Her boyfriend put her in quite an uncomfortable situation because he keeps insisting that he should have access to her safe full of gems and other precious stones, even though there is really no valid reason for him to know—and he himself said that he's not interested in it.

Red flag? Read on to find out the full story!

A gemologist shared her story on Reddit, explaining how her boyfriend keeps demanding access to her safe filled with gems and precious stones worth six figures, even though he claims to have "no interest in it."

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Feeling that her current situation has put their relationship in a ditch, she asked the Internet for help.

She acquired the gems and stones because of her job, and she has kept her collection in a safe for which only she knows the code.

She also states that she has another safe for other important documents.

Her boyfriend already had access to the document safe so he could also store his important files there—but the problem is, he also wants access to the gem safe.

He reasons that since they now live together, he should know the code.

OP refused to give him access because he doesn't even need the code, as it is purely for her collection from work.

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He claims that he has no interest in them, nor does he even want to look at them, but he just wants the code.

Naturally, this caused quite a rift in their relationship, as the boyfriend thinks OP doesn't trust him enough. But this is no small matter, since the gems are very expensive.

She further asked if she is in the wrong for not granting access to her gems.

A side note:

Her situation went viral, and OP was overwhelmed with the responses—but a quick update indicates that she's about to break up with him and send him packing.

Another detail that you might find interesting:

OP further supports her narrative by stating that the gem collection in the safe is hers and hers alone.

She also assures the thread subscribers that she'll keep them posted with updates.

She has also transferred her documents from the other safe, which he has access to.

She also informed her colleague about her plans regarding the situation.

We're certainly excited for it!

Take a look at some of the replies on the thread:

It's definitely a bigger issue; the moment he asked for access, it was already a red flag!

Good thing OP has taken off her rose-colored glasses. Bye, mister!

That's really suspicious.

Her job is definitely interesting!

At the end of the day, it's all about respect paired with trust that matters.

He certainly didn't sound like he genuinely wanted access just so he could make a customized ring.

Money does weird things to people, indeed!

Yep, put down that reverse card.

So many red flags.

He should have stopped asking the very moment she said no.

Run!

Turning the tables.

Good thing OP is planning to kiss his suspicious behind goodbye!