Obese Woman Hurt After Being Told That Her Weight Prevents Her From Being Invited To Girls' Trip

A woman thought she was being “honest” about why her daughter-in-law was left out of a girls’ trip, until her words landed like a slap. And once it hit Reddit, the whole thing turned into a debate about cruelty, family politics, and what people really mean when they say someone “can’t keep up.”

Here’s the mess: the OP has a child who is 8, her daughter-in-law is obese, and the family dynamic is already strained. The OP claims the DIL was not invited because of her weight, then tries to explain that even low-walking plans go sideways, with the DIL stopping constantly and spending hours on a bench at places like a small mall. But the moment weight becomes the reason, it stops being logistics and starts being rejection.

Now everyone is arguing over who is the real villain, and whether the OP’s “clarification” made the situation better or worse.

The OP writes

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Her only child is 8 years old, and she hasn’t lost the weight

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Body Image and Social Acceptance

The hurt feelings expressed by the woman are indicative of the deep-seated issues surrounding body image and societal standards of beauty.

Research published in the Journal of Obesity shows that individuals with obesity often face stigmatization and discrimination, which can severely affect their mental health and self-esteem.

This social rejection can lead to feelings of inadequacy and isolation, creating a vicious cycle of negative self-perception.

She forces them to stop all the time, and it ruins the trips

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The Reddit post went viral with thousands of comments, and here are a bunch of them

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The girls’ trip was supposed to be simple fun, but the OP’s “it’s because of her weight” explanation dragged the whole family dinner table into the comments section.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

I told her the reason my DIL wasn’t invited was due to her weight. I could have been nicer, which could make me a jerk.

The honest answer will always be...

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Including her in activities that do not require much walking

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Then the OP doubled down with the details, like the DIL spending half a day on a bench during window shopping, and that’s when people started picking sides hard.

This is similar to the AITA poster avoiding office gossip and getting accused of disrupting the team.

Being excluded based on weight highlights the social dynamics of acceptance and belonging, which are crucial for psychological well-being. Social identity theory suggests that people often derive self-worth from group membership, and exclusion can trigger feelings of unworthiness.

Moreover, the emotional impact of such comments can lead to anxiety and depression, reinforcing the stigma surrounding obesity.

There are so many places you can't go

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The OP should have communicated the problem better

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After that, the OP tried to frame it as “we include her for non-taxing stuff,” but the bench time and swollen ankles kept making it feel like a nonstop excuse loop.

The OP left this as an edit

We have done plenty of things that are not physically taxing with her, but even with the small stuff, she ends up on a bench half the day. We went to a small mall, and she spent half the day on the bench. It was window shopping.She is obese, and her ankles are swollen from her weight. The connection between her weight and her inability to walk far without a break is very obvious.

The OP has to explain it better

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Leaving it open for her to realize her shortcomings

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Finally, the post ended with the OP wondering if she should have communicated it better, while commenters basically begged the family to stop turning access into a punishment.

Promoting Body Positivity

To counteract these negative feelings, it’s vital to foster a culture of body positivity and acceptance.

Engaging in body positivity movements can help challenge societal norms and foster self-acceptance, promoting healthier body image perceptions.

When there is a lot of walking involved

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The incident involving the woman who was excluded from a girls' trip due to her weight highlights the pervasive emotional distress linked to body image issues. This situation reveals a troubling lack of sensitivity in social dynamics that can significantly impact individuals' mental health. It is essential for society to cultivate a more inclusive atmosphere that celebrates diversity in body shapes and sizes. Such awareness is crucial for fostering a supportive community where everyone feels valued and included.

Some Redditors say that Beth's fitness is the issue, not her size. The OP laments the fact that Beth is unable to fully engage and is impeding her progress, but that doesn't mean that it's not possible for obese people to exercise.

The OP emphasized Beth's weight rather than informing her that her lack of fitness was the problem. Still, a decision had to be made, and the OP was declared not the AH.

Encouraging open discussions about body image issues within social groups can also be beneficial.

The OP wanted to explain the invite rules, but she accidentally exposed how mean “practical” can sound when it’s aimed at someone’s body.

Want more “you’re not invited” fallout, read about the sister who excluded her from the bridal party.