She Worked Hard And Saved Smart—Then Her Parents Asked For $5,000 And Everything Exploded

Reddit user u/Fun_Leave3783ThrowRA says she’s always had a complicated relationship with her parents, especially when it comes to money. Growing up, she watched them repeatedly make poor financial decisions that left the household stressed and, at times, without basic utilities.

Bills were often ignored in favor of unnecessary splurges, and the OP says she frequently went without things she needed. Determined not to repeat that cycle, the Redditor worked hard to build a stable life.

With a steady income and reduced rent, she’s become extremely careful with money. She saves consistently, sticks to low-risk investments, and checks her bank account daily.

A few months ago, her parents called in a panic. They told her they were drowning in debt and asked for a $5,000 loan to help cover their mortgage.

While she could technically afford it, the OP hesitated for a reason. She’s loaned them money before and says she’s never been paid back.

Instead of handing over cash, she offered practical help. She suggested budgeting, side hustles, couponing, and thrift shopping, but her parents shut all of it down.

They insisted they didn’t need advice, just money. When she refused, things quickly escalated.

Her parents accused her of being selfish and ungrateful. Other relatives soon joined in, pressuring her to give them the cash.

Now the Redditor feels torn between guilt and self-preservation. She wants to help but not at the cost of her own financial security, leaving her wondering if she’s really in the wrong.

The OP’s parents said they were drowning in debt and asked for a $5,000 loan to help cover their mortgage.

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Here’s the original post by Reddit user ‘Fun_Leave3783ThrowRA’.

I (27F) have always had a complicated relationship with my parents. Growing up, my parents (both in their 50s) were not the best with money. They constantly made poor financial decisions, such as overspending on luxuries we couldn't afford and putting off bills until our power or water got shut off. This led to a lot of stress in my childhood, and I often had to go without things I needed until I got a job and started to pay for them myself. I’ve worked hard to get where I am today. I put myself through college with scholarships and part-time jobs, and now I have a stable job working as the junior librarian at the college I attended, which comes with a decent salary and decreased rent on campus. I’ve always been careful with my money. I have a savings account, invested in no- and low-risk endeavours, and check my banking info at least once a day. A few months ago, my parents called me in a panic, saying they were in serious debt and needed help to pay their mortgage. They asked if I could lend them $5,000 to help them get back on their feet. I sympathise with their situation, but I know their history with money and am worried they won’t pay me back. I have loaned them lump sums before and never received a cent back from them. But nothing as big as $5,000. Although I could lend it to them out of my savings, and it wouldn't impact my month-to-month expenses. I offered to help them create a budget and find resources like side hustles and methods to help them save money (i.e price checking or couponing at the grocery store and thrifting clothes), but they dismissed these suggestions, saying they just needed the cash. When I refused to give them the money, my parents were furious. They accused me of being selfish and ungrateful, claiming that family should always help each other out. They even got some relatives involved, who are now pressuring me to give in. I feel awful about their situation, but I don't want to jeopardise my own financial stability, especially when I’m not confident they’ll use the money wisely, even though I could technically afford to give them the money. So, AITA?

Let’s see how the Reddit community reacted.

ironchef8000

You did the right thing.

Savings-Breath-9118

Don’t lend them money whatever you do.

Thismarno

You should try this!

Ok_Play2364

It’s your money, not theirs.

DragonMaster7433

They’re grown adults, they shouldn’t be relying on you.

mdthomas

Don’t do it!

Potential_Beat6619

You’ve done more than enough already.

ShelterMany7276

You’ll never see that $5K again.

OkeyDokey654

If they can’t afford their house, they should sell it.

VinylHighway

They will only keep asking for more.

Dogmother123

Tell them you’ll pay the money directly to the mortgage company.

Terrible_Cow9208

Time for them to grow up.

joe-lefty500

In the end, the OP is left navigating guilt, family pressure, and some very loud opinions, all while trying not to repeat the same financial cycle she grew up with. And whether her parents agree or not, she’s learning that sometimes the hardest boundaries are the most necessary ones.