Partner Chooses Work Over Prenatal Classes: AITA for Asking Them to Prioritize?

A 28-year-old woman is pregnant, and she thought prenatal classes would be their shared “we’re in this together” thing. Instead, her partner keeps disappearing into overtime, skipping class after class like it’s optional. And when she ends up sitting through one alone because of a last-minute work emergency, the resentment finally snaps into a full-on argument.

Here’s the complication, they are not just missing random appointments. They signed up together for labor and delivery education, and OP says the repeated no-shows make her feel unsupported during a time when she needs teamwork. Her partner, 30, insists work has to come first because he’s trying to provide for their future family, and he brushes her concerns off as questioning his work ethic.

Now she’s stuck wondering if she went too far by pushing him to prioritize the classes over overtime pay.

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I (28F) am currently pregnant, and my partner (30M) has been working overtime a lot lately due to a big project at work. The issue is, we signed up for prenatal classes together, and they keep missing them because of work.

These classes are crucial for both of us to learn about what to expect during labor and delivery. For background, my partner is very dedicated to their job and often puts work first.

However, I feel that their commitment is causing them to neglect important aspects of our pregnancy. I've tried talking to them about prioritizing the prenatal classes, but they always brush it off, saying they need to work to provide for our future family.

I understand the financial concerns, but I believe attending these classes is equally important. Last week, they skipped a class last-minute due to a work emergency, leaving me to attend alone.

I felt disappointed and unsupported, which led to a heated argument when they came home. I expressed how hurt I was that they prioritize work over our pregnancy journey and that attending these classes together is crucial for our relationship and for preparing us for parenthood.

They argued that their work ethic shouldn't be questioned and that missing one class is not a big deal. So AITA for insisting that my partner prioritizes our prenatal classes over work, even if it means less overtime pay?

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Kind of like the AITA fight where a pregnant partner wanted her husband to skip work for prenatal appointments.

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OP’s partner misses prenatal classes again, and the “we’ll catch up later” excuse starts wearing thin fast.

The last-minute skip where OP attends alone turns her frustration into something way more personal than scheduling.

When he gets home from the work emergency and dismisses it as “not a big deal,” the argument stops being polite.

After he claims his work ethic should not be questioned, OP has to decide if she’s asking for partnership or control.

How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comments.

She might not be wrong for wanting him in that classroom, but she is definitely forcing the real question, does he see “together” as a priority or a suggestion?

Before you decide, read how she made her husband choose work or prenatal classes.