Partners Work Trip vs. Pregnancy Anxiety: AITA for Asking Him to Cancel?

A 28-year-old woman is seven months pregnant, and her anxiety is hitting at night like a surprise storm. While she’s been handling it as best she can, she’s also trying to keep it together for the baby and for her relationship.

Here’s the complication, her 30-year-old partner has a work trip coming up next week, three days away. She told him she feels overwhelmed and scared being alone, especially after dark, and she asked him to cancel or reschedule so he can stay by her side. At first, he seemed understanding, but then he brought up job consequences, inconvenience to colleagues, and the idea that canceling could mess things up at work.

Now she’s stuck wondering if she asked for too much, or if he just prioritized the wrong thing at the worst possible time.

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So I'm (28F) currently 7 months pregnant, and I've been experiencing a lot of anxiety lately. My partner (30M) has a work trip scheduled next week that requires him to be away for three days.

I've been feeling really overwhelmed and scared about being alone, especially at night. For background, I've had a history of anxiety issues even before pregnancy.

I mustered up the courage to talk to my partner about my fears and asked if he could cancel or reschedule his work trip to be there for me during this time. He initially seemed understanding but then mentioned that canceling the trip might affect his job and cause inconvenience to his colleagues.

This response made me feel like he prioritized work over my emotional well-being. I know that his job is important and I don't want to be unreasonable, but having him by my side during such a vulnerable time is crucial for my mental health.

He's been supportive throughout my pregnancy, but I really feel like I need him now more than ever. So AITA for asking him to cancel his work trip to support me through my pregnancy anxiety?

I honestly don't know if I'm wrong here and would appreciate some perspective.

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This is similar to the pregnant scare where the partner chose a work trip over canceling, and commenters debated if she was AITAH.

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OP is already dealing with anxiety before pregnancy, so when the partner’s trip got scheduled, the “three nights alone” part became the whole problem.

After OP finally works up the courage to explain her fears, his response about colleagues and job impact makes her feel like her mental well-being is optional.

Even though he’s been supportive during the pregnancy, OP is still asking for the one moment she feels she needs him most, the nights he’d be gone.

So the question becomes whether OP was being unreasonable by requesting cancellation, or whether he should have chosen her over work for once.

Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments section.

He might be wondering if he picked the wrong calendar, right when OP needed him the most.

Before you judge, read whether she was the AITA for asking her husband to cancel his work trip.