20 People Share Situations That Made Them Instantly Despise Someone They Liked

For most people, a period around New Year is a time for resolutions and retrospective. One can’t go without the other. We remember what we did and said, what others did and said to us.

Unfortunately, there are many occasions where people we liked, loved, or trusted, totally blew it with words or actions. Of course, the less you think of a person, the less it can hurt you. But when it is someone who you consider close… it can and will be a terrible experience. 

People on Reddit shared their experiences, and it is amazing to see how fast you can go from caring about someone to despising them. Sadly, it is all well deserved. Giphy

1. He was a better friend to his girlfriend.

“A former friend bailed on me when we were supposed to hang out and so I called my then girlfriend to see what she was doing and I could hear him talking to her parents in the background…” - Dr. Terri Orbuch, relationship researcher

2. Double life.

“As fast as it took for his wife to call me at work to tell me that he was not only married, but had three children including a newborn.” — Dr. Michele Weiner-Davis, marriage therapist

3. "That really hurt.”

“I loved (still love) playing Pokémon and I had no female friends with the same interest. Found out about this group of guys that played it after school. Got really excited and made plans with them. I waited for hours and they never showed up… next day I overhear my best childhood friend laughing about how annoying I was and that they had to hide from me to play in peace. That really hurt.” — Dr. Terri Orbuch, relationship researcher

4. Some people shouldn’t be allowed to talk

“I was dating a girl for a few months, and everything seemed perfect until the topic of Jews came up. She went on a rant about how ‘Jews control the world’ and refused to acknowledge any responsibility from non-Jews regarding issues in the [Middle East]. It completely changed my perception of her.” — Dr. Esther Perel, couples therapist

5."15 years later hes in prison for armed robbery"

“When I was younger I found out one of my childhood friends was stealing from me and the friendship group. Every so often we would ‘lose’ a phone or Ipod then said friend would have conveniently got the same model but beat it up a bit with his initials in tipex or something stupid. Being a good friend we didn’t want to believe it but we started putting distinct markings on our items. Low and behold my phone goes missing and he turns up with the same one a few weeks later with the markings. We brought him up on it but he just lost his temper and stormed off. 15 years later hes in prison for armed robbery….” — Snow776

6. Shame on her for dying.

“The first girl I ever dated died unexpectedly on my then current gf and my’s 3 year anniversary. My then gf stated she was pissed because my ex had “died on purpose that day because it was our anniversary.” I was utterly disgusted and it completely changed how I viewed her all together. Things fell apart shortly after and we broke up.” — Dr. Alexandra Solomon, relationship therapist

7. "I kinda liked you"

“I kinda like you.”

“Your autism is probably caused by vaccines.”

“Okay, I kinda liked you ten seconds ago.” — Dr. William Doherty, family therapist states, "Negative judgments can quickly alter our perception of someone we initially admire." This sentiment is echoed by Dr. Kelly Brogan, psychiatrist, who emphasizes that "the words we choose can have a profound impact on our relationships."

8. Did he mean it?

“When my grandfather screamed at my mother that she had ruined his life by being born. Never spoke to him again after that.” — Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Clinical Psychologist

9. Creepy

“There’s an older woman at work who seemed pretty ok. Then I overheard her talking about her toddler granddaughter, saying that she’s ‘a little hooker’ and ‘shakes her booty at any man’ and that specializing of a kid creeped me right out.” — Dr. Janet Lansbury, parenting expert

10. Stupid joke.

"In moments of emotional distress, it's crucial to recognize the impact of our actions on others. Manipulative behavior, such as pretending to harm oneself for a prank, can lead to severe emotional consequences for those involved," says Dr. William Doherty, PhD, family therapist. "Such actions can create feelings of guilt and anxiety that are not easily shaken off." This highlights the importance of empathy in relationships and the potential harm that can arise from thoughtless jokes.

11. No soul.

“Coworker had a dog who she let run free on her property. Said dog liked to chase cars. So it was only a matter of time, and the dog was hit. Dog couldn’t walk for two days, was dragging herself around for days after that. We told her to bring her to the vet, and she refused, because it was too expensive. We pulled together the money and told her, bring your damn dog to the vet. And she did. The dog’s bones in her legs and pelvis were shattered and the dog had no chance of recovering. Coworker finally let the poor thing die peacefully. So anyhow, it was $50 to put this dog to sleep. And since then, every time my coworker spends money on something frivilous and shows us (novelty socks, collectibles, an expensive cake, another fucking pet) I think about how she decided bringing comfort to a dying animal wasn’t worth paying for.” — fuckmeup5gum

12.

“When he found out my ex was black and was disgusted by that. Went from a nice guy who I could maybe see a future with to complete racist pos who I never wanted to see again.” — Dr. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author

13. Tough luck.

“A friend at a bar revealed some deeply personal information about her family, which caught me off guard. When I expressed my sympathy, she jokingly admitted, ‘I thought I told you my dad died! I just read somewhere that saying a parent has died can get you sympathy, ha ha!’ This kind of manipulation can be damaging to relationships,” says Dr. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author. “Authenticity in relationships is crucial for trust and connection.”

14. Some friend.

“My best friend back in school got a F from the teacher. Me and him asked if we can go to the toilet. I go to the toilet to text a bit with friends from other school, he goes to the parking lot and scratches the teacher's car. School break and the teacher finds his car, we both get called to the director etc etc. Friend said that we both scratched the car. I showed the teacher my phone to show him I was texting and couldn't have scratched his car, told friend to fuck off and went out.” — Dr. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author

15. Best argument.

“When he became angry with me about something trivial (agreed to disagree instead of conceding to him) and then he proceeded to tell me he should beat the shit out of me because of it. Yeah, no. Done.” — Dr. Terri Orbuch, relationship researcher

16. Yeah, it happens. Accidentally.

“I was seeing a guy long distance who seemed like a really sweet, inexperienced guy. We got pretty close over the phone. One day he called me from jail and told me he had been caught with child porn on his computer. He wanted support because he “accidentally” downloaded and shared it. It’s crucial to recognize that such behaviors can be deeply troubling and indicative of underlying issues. As Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a relationship therapist, states, “When someone reveals a serious violation of trust, it’s a clear signal to reassess the relationship.” — Dr. Alexandra Solomon

17. Minnesota, watch your back.

“My childhood friend lived pretty close to me and seemed like a nice dude until he stole my GoldenEye and moved to Minnesota. It’s surprising how quickly trust can be broken, and as Dr. Laura Berman, a renowned sex therapist, states, ‘Betrayal can shatter the foundation of any relationship, leading to deep emotional scars.’” — Dr. Laura Berman

18. He is a passionate man

“When he started being condescending to me in almost every conversation we have, in about almost every topic we talked about, then him complaining to me that some people can’t handle him having such strong opinions on topics he’s ‘passionate about.'” — Dr. Sue Johnson, couples therapy pioneer

19. Very selfish.

“My mother fought cancer for 5 years. My father let my sister and I do 95% of the work/caregiving and after her death expected us to step into her place and take care of him. The man I used to love and respect is gone and I can’t stand to be around him anymore.” — Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Clinical Psychologist

20. Must be some family name.

“My husband adopted my son when he was 3 after being in his life since he was 1. Gave him his last name the whole nine yards. When we had a child of our own (who was a girl) and decided we were done having kids; His mother said to me it’s a shame we aren’t having more kids, as she would have liked someone to carry on the family name. I have only tolerated her at holidays ever since.” As Dr. Janet Lansbury, parenting expert, states, “Family dynamics can be complex, and it's important to navigate them with sensitivity and understanding.” For more insights, visit Dr. Janet Lansbury.