Friend Pays Price For Badmouthing Someone Who Helped Care For Her Untrained Dogs While She Was Being Hospitalized

A 28-year-old woman refused to dogsit two elderly dogs, and the whole thing spiraled from “it’ll be two days” into a full-on trust disaster. The kicker? She wasn’t even told about the problem until she overheard it being discussed with mutual friends.

Her friend was hospitalized, so OP stepped in to help care for untrained dogs. But while she was doing the job, someone else started badmouthing her, claiming the nature walks “traumatized” the dogs, and somehow that anger spread to everyone in their circle.

By the time the friend finally recovered, she was done with OP as a sitter, and now OP is wondering if she’s the asshole for refusing what was never clearly explained.

The OP writes

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The OP was supposed to have the dogs for 2 days, but it turned into 14

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The situation detailed in the article highlights the fragile nature of trust, particularly among those who are supposed to support one another. In this case, the betrayal felt by the friend who was criticized for caring for untrained dogs while the owner was hospitalized reveals how quickly trust can erode. When one individual feels wronged, as this friend clearly does, it sets off a chain reaction that can compromise accountability and understanding. The impact of these feelings can linger, ultimately necessitating deliberate efforts to mend what has been broken. This underscores how vital it is to recognize the importance of support and gratitude within relationships, especially in challenging times.

Friend said it took them weeks to recover, and they will not be left with a non-live-in sitter again

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OP was meant to watch the dogs for two days, but it quietly stretched into 14, which is where the resentment started to feel baked in.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

AITA for refusing to dogsit a couple of untrained elderly dogs for a friend who complained to mutual friends that I traumatized them by walking them in nature? It was never mentioned to me until I overheard the discussion with the friends. I might be TA because the friend will go to the hospital for a procedure and will now have to find another sitter.

There are so many reasons to say no

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It sounds like she's a bad dog owner

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While OP was walking those untrained elderly dogs during her friend’s hospital stint, the friend was already venting to mutual friends instead of bringing it up directly.

This also echoes the OP who refused to pet-sit their friend’s new puppy, after broken items.

Studies in the Journal of Family Psychology suggest that conflicts over shared resources can lead to long-standing resentments if not addressed effectively.

When boundaries are crossed, it’s essential to communicate openly to prevent further misunderstandings and resentment.

Addressing these issues promptly can help siblings maintain healthy relationships and avoid feelings of betrayal.

Good on the OP for not being a pushover

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They extended their vacation after they left

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That’s when OP overheard the “traumatized them on nature walks” talk and realized she’d never been told there was an issue at all.

Conflict Resolution Techniques for Siblings

Creating a contract of sorts can help ensure everyone is on the same page and understands the expectations involved.

Regular family meetings can also facilitate discussions about grievances and improve overall communication.

The OP heard what she heard

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They were not traumatized by being exercised

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Now the friend says it took weeks to recover and she will not leave the dogs with a non-live-in sitter again, and OP is left holding the fallout.

Encouraging empathy among siblings can also help in conflict resolution.

This Redditor isn't about to do that again ever

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They didn't want to be back at home

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The fact that the dogs aren't house-trained is more than enough justification to decline dogsitting them ever again. Also, the OP's friend greatly overstretched the favor without seeking her consent, first badmouthing the OP to others and then ghosting her.

All of these are also very good reasons to decline such a request. The OP was declared not the AH, and that's where we draw the curtains.

In this case, the betrayal of trust between friends highlights the critical role of accountability and communication in any relationship. The article illustrates how harmful words can unravel the support system that is essential when caring for others, especially in vulnerable situations like hospitalization. The actions of the friend who spoke negatively about the caregiver serve as a reminder that open dialogue and empathy are vital in maintaining healthy connections. Without these elements, conflicts can escalate and damage relationships irreparably.

Nobody wants to keep getting blamed for the care they were never allowed to do differently.

For the next dog-sitting blowup, read about the friend demanding vet bills for Max.