Teenager Asks Reddit If She's An A**hole For Making A Pregnant Woman Wait In The Rain For An Elevator

"She's pregnant, not made of sand."

Sometimes the smallest elevator moment turns into the biggest drama, and this one went straight to a pregnant woman, her mom, and a 15-year-old OP wondering if she’s the villain.

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It was raining hard after school, and OP says her apartment building only has one elevator that fits 10 people. When she reached the lobby, she was the tenth person inside, which meant the pregnant lady had to wait for the lift to make another trip back down, standing out in the rain.

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One ride later, the fallout hit, and now OP is staring at the question Reddit loves most: was she wrong, or just unlucky?

The OP asked if she's an a**hole for making a pregnant lady wait in the rain.

The OP asked if she's an a**hole for making a pregnant lady wait in the rain.Reddit/Buttnugget_omg
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The 15-year-old explained that one day, as she was getting home from school, it was raining heavily.

The 15-year-old explained that one day, as she was getting home from school, it was raining heavily.Reddit/Buttnugget_omg
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The OP says her apartment building only has one elevator, which holds 10 people at a time.

The OP says her apartment building only has one elevator, which holds 10 people at a time.Reddit/Buttnugget_omg

Social dynamics often play a crucial role in how individuals perceive and react to one another in public spaces. A study published in the Journal of Social Issues highlights how social norms and expectations can influence behavior, particularly in contexts where individuals feel they must adhere to societal expectations.

In situations like this, individuals may feel compelled to act in accordance with perceived standards, which can lead to moral dilemmas when empathy for others is involved.

OP wasn’t trying to be cruel, she just slipped into the elevator as the tenth person while that pregnant woman stood outside in the storm.

The dilemma of prioritizing personal convenience over the needs of others, especially in public spaces, raises questions about social responsibility.

Research from the Journal of Applied Social Psychology reveals that social norms often dictate behavior in communal settings, leading to feelings of obligation to assist those in need.

This dynamic can create tension between personal interests and communal expectations.

The OP was the tenth person when she got into the lift, which meant a pregnant lady needed to wait in the rain for the elevator to come back.

The OP was the tenth person when she got into the lift, which meant a pregnant lady needed to wait in the rain for the elevator to come back.Reddit/Buttnugget_omg

The OP got in big trouble when the pregnant lady told her mom what happened. Now she's wondering if she is the a**hole here.

The OP got in big trouble when the pregnant lady told her mom what happened. Now she's wondering if she is the a**hole here.Reddit/Buttnugget_omg

Here's how people reacted.

Here's how people reacted.Reddit/RebeccaCheeseburger

Research suggests that feelings of pressure to conform to social norms can lead to a lack of empathy and understanding for those in vulnerable positions.

Teenagers often navigate complex social dynamics, which can complicate their ability to empathize in stressful situations.

"It's not a disability."

"It's not a disability."Reddit/I_Am_AWESOME-O_

"Getting rained on is no worse whether or not you're pregnant."

"Getting rained on is no worse whether or not you're pregnant."Reddit/nandemotawagoto

First come, first served.

First come, first served.Reddit/crimsonraiden

That’s when the pregnant lady told her mom what happened, and suddenly this wasn’t just about rain and timing.

It’s similar to the AITA case where one user, dealing with infertility, declined to host a baby shower and faced backlash.

Empathy and Moral Responsibility

Empathy plays a crucial role in moral decision-making and can be a powerful motivator for compassionate behavior.

Empathy plays a critical role in promoting prosocial behavior, particularly in communal settings.

"Pregnancy doesn't make a woman melt."

"Pregnancy doesn't make a woman melt."Reddit/Reasonable_Listen514

"Sounds like entitlement to me."

"Sounds like entitlement to me."Reddit/allieadventurer

Everyone sucks here!

Everyone sucks here!Reddit/Bella-1999

By the time OP realized she’d left the elevator gap for the pregnant woman to deal with, the “first come, first served” logic started sounding a little shaky.

Encouraging individuals to reflect on their own experiences can promote a deeper understanding of the challenges others face. This can create a culture of support and compassion.

Engaging in discussions about social responsibility can help teenagers develop a greater sense of empathy.

NTA.

Teenager discusses Reddit debate about making pregnant woman wait in rainReddit/Either_Branch3929

It depends on who came first.

It depends on who came first.Reddit/Twisted_paperclips

"She's pregnant, not made of sand."

"She's pregnant, not made of sand."Reddit/blindedbythesparkles

"She could've asked politely."

"She could've asked politely."Reddit/poshde

"There were nine other people that could have gotten off."

"There were nine other people that could have gotten off."Reddit/tacohut676

"She's pregnant, but you're also a child."

"She's pregnant, but you're also a child."Reddit/valkwhorie

Now OP is getting judged for the elevator choice that felt normal in the moment, but looked brutal once everyone heard the story.

What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP was wrong for not allowing the pregnant woman to go ahead of her, or was she just as entitled to take the last spot in the elevator?

Either way, it seems the woman could have cut the OP some slack considering her age. After all, the OP is still a child.

We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

The situation presented by the Reddit user raises significant questions about social responsibility versus personal convenience.

This situation highlights how social norms can clash with basic empathy in our everyday interactions.

OP might be right that she did nothing “on purpose,” but the pregnant lady still got rained on because of her spot in line.

For more “pregnant friend drama,” check out what happened when one AITA user refused to host a baby shower for a judgmental friend.

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