15 People Share The Biggest Red Flags They've Ever Ignored In Relationships

Some relationship red flags are obvious in hindsight, but in the moment, they can be easy to excuse. That is exactly what makes these stories so messy, because attraction, denial, and bad timing can all blur the warning signs.

In this roundup, people share the biggest red flags they ignored, from cheating and lying to behavior that should have ended things much sooner. The original Reddit prompt asked what warning sign got overlooked because the sex was good, and the answers are as blunt as you would expect.

Keep reading for 15 stories that show how quickly a bad situation can turn into a very bad relationship.

#1 Fourth time lucky.

She was married and divorced three times by 27.

- Screamin_STEMI

#2 "It never dawned on me."

Probably the plethora of empty wine bottles around the apartment, and the knowledge that she had just gotten out of a long-term relationship.Somehow, it never dawned on me that I was the rebound guy.

- the5thbeagle

That should have been a clue right away.

#3 The flag doesn't get any redder than that.

She basically told me she might cheat on me if she had the opportunity with her ex.It was my first relationship, and I was as stupid as can be.

- Genocide_Fan

#4 Loud and clear.

We were in a hotel, and she would just keep screaming at the top of her lungs.I kept telling her to quiet down, but instead, that only turned her on more.I only continued because she was my girlfriend at the time, and it was pretty good sex for me as well.

- StaticSh0T

This one was impossible to miss.

#5 Wait, what?

She was my ex-wife's husband's ex-wife.

- mroozienelson

#6 Karma.

I had an affair with a married woman; she left her husband for me, married me, then cheated on me.If that isn’t karma, I don’t know what is.

- G4V_Zero

It’s also like the woman who caught her partner with her ex-husband and questioned loyalty in the first place, should I question my partner’s loyalty after the ex-husband encounter?

That situation was already headed for trouble.

#7 "Deep in her guts."

She got annoyed because I told her about a coworker who felt bad about cheating on her boyfriend.She said, "Just keep sh*t on the DL… Nobody has to know if you keep your f*cking mouth shut."I immediately knew someone else was deep in her guts.

- ItsJustRedditRelax

#8 Self-love.

She stared at herself in the mirror during sex.Fully moaning and cumming, but would never break eye contact with herself.

- ask-me-about-my-toe

#9 "She was f*cking crazy!"

She cried when I just wanted to make out after our first date. She said I wasn’t serious if I didn’t want to f*ck her.She was 46 and hot as f*ck. I was 31. Cougar time!So I f*cked her, and the sex was great, but she was f*cking crazy, and I bailed after about five months.

- Birdamus

#10 Hmm.

She called me the n-word all the time. We are not black.

- Arctic_Snowfox

That was never going to stay a joke.

#11 "I still didn’t wanna let go."

All of the lying and bragging about how good she was at it, manipulations, caught her in a lie, then caught her cheating, and I still didn’t wanna let go.That sh*t hurt deep for a long time.

- TerminalCrowbar

#12 That's dedication.

I used to have a subscription to Playboy before I met this girlfriend, and I’d leave them on top of the toilet for reading material(before cell phones).One day, after getting situated on the throne, I opened an issue and discovered my sweetie had taken a permanent marker…and covered all the naughty bits on EVERY nude picture (even the tiny ads in the back).It must have taken her hours to do all the issues.

- smilingonion

#13 It's not always a joke.

She was a racist f*ck.She always said she was joking, but I later found out she was entirely serious.

- kalanawi

#14 So much.

Oh god, so much.Obsessiveness, narcissism, codependency, overt stupidity, laziness, lack of ambition, all kinds of stuff.

- inomenata

#15 Pretty straightforward.

She kept f*cking my friends.

- mochalatteicecream

Some red flags really do announce themselves.

For more wedding fallout, read what happened when someone warned her friend about a cheating fiance.