Woman Thankful After Advice She Got On Reddit Helped Fix Her Marriage
Three years later, we have an update.
A Reddit update about a marriage, money, and a lot of hurt feelings is getting attention all over again. What started as one woman asking whether she was wrong for wanting her husband to contribute more has turned into a story about therapy, trust, and a relationship that slowly changed over time.
In her original 2020 post, she said her husband earned far more than she did, yet still expected her to split rent evenly while she was making much less. After quitting a higher-paying job to care for their newborn and later moving into counseling, she says the couple found a new way to handle finances and communication.
Now she is back with an update, and the Reddit reactions are just as strong as before.
This is how it started.
u/whatdoesthismeanthoCouple counseling helped them.
u/whatdoesthismeanthoThey turned their lives around.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
Reddit can be surprisingly good at pushing people to take a hard look at their own situation.
That is especially true when money and marriage get tangled together.
We're happy for the happy ending! Then Reddit responded.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
1. Happy to learn about their progress.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
2. She should ask for back pay for all the times her husband wasn't supportive.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
Here’s where the comments started piling in.
Redditors had plenty to say about how the situation changed over time.
3. She should get a "post-nup" to protect herself and her children.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
4. It's great that things are better now.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
5. It would have been better if her husband had realized sooner that parenting was hard work.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
Some readers were clearly focused on how much the couple had already worked through.
The update also made people revisit the original conflict and what it took to move past it.
It’s like the fight over asking your partner’s parents to contribute rent for the basement apartment.
AITA for requesting partners parents contribute rent in basement apartment.
6. It's good that they are both getting therapy.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
7. It's heartbreaking that she went through that.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
8. Her husband was misogynistic and selfish.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
And of course, the financial side of the story kept coming up too.
That part of the discussion did not go away for long.
9. Finance is an important topic that should be addressed before marriage.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
10. It is good to work on a relationship rather than end it.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
11. Her husband had a bad upbringing.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
12. Seeking therapy was a good idea.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
13. Her husband owes her for his financial abuse.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
14. Hope her husband understands he wronged her.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
15. Her husband should pay her if he's truly sorry.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
16. Kudos to the couple for working things out.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
17. Hope things keep getting better between them.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
18. They should re-evaluate their old prenup.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
19. They shouldn't contribute the same amount.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
20. Ending a relationship isn't always the best answer.
u/whatdoesthismeantho
What Do You Think?
It is often said that one shouldn't take advice from strangers online because many people you meet on public forums are merely armchair experts.
However, there are cases where advice from netizens has yielded positive results.
Regardless of whether you are getting advice online or offline, it is important to sift through advice and discern which is good or bad.
The experience shared by the Reddit user known as "whatdoesthismeantho" highlights the transformative power of online communities in repairing relationships. Her journey of seeking advice on the AITA subreddit illustrates how social support can play a crucial role during times of marital strife. By engaging in open dialogue with fellow Redditors, she was able to gain insights that not only addressed her immediate concerns about her husband's financial contributions but also encouraged a deeper reflection on their communication patterns. This interaction underscores the importance of seeking and receiving support from others, particularly when navigating tough times.
Ultimately, the connections formed in these digital spaces can serve as a lifeline, helping couples confront their challenges and emerge stronger together.
The journey of "whatdoesthismeantho" highlights the profound impact that community support can have on personal relationships.
Want more “fairness” fights, like the 50/50 bill debate with a successful sibling? AITA for wanting family bills to be fair.
