Refusing to Share Office Snacks: Am I the Jerk After Betrayal?

Office snack drama can get surprisingly personal, especially when someone crosses a line that was never supposed to be crossed. In this Reddit story, a 33-year-old man says he kept a stash of limited edition snack bars in his office drawer, only to find them raided by a new coworker he thought he could trust.

What started as a friendly workplace connection turned awkward fast after Alex allegedly denied taking the bars, then admitted it once the empty wrappers were found. Now the question is whether OP should share snacks to smooth things over, or stand his ground after the betrayal.

So I'm (33M) working in a small office with a critical snack policy - everyone brings in their own snacks, and it's hands-off unless explicitly offered. About six months ago, I introduced a pack of super exclusive, limited edition snack bars that I had been hunting down for weeks.

I even hid them in a bottom drawer to avoid any accidental sharing. This new coworker, let's call them Alex, joined our team last month.

We got along great, and they seemed respectful of boundaries. Fast forward to last Friday when I found my secret stash raided - wrappers strewn across the office, crumbs everywhere.

Only my precious limited edition bars were missing, the rest of my snacks were left untouched. I confronted Alex privately about this breach of trust, and they initially denied taking them.

However, when I pointed out the empty wrappers in their drawer, they admitted to eating them and said they thought it was okay since they were 'just snacks'. I was furious, feeling betrayed and disrespected.

Now, Alex has asked me to share my snacks openly with the team as a gesture of 'moving on.' I can't shake off the feeling of violation, and I don't want to reward this behavior. But if I refuse, I risk creating tension in our small office, and Alex might paint me as unreasonable.

So, would I be the jerk if I refuse to share my office snacks, even though they were taken without permission?

This one clearly wasn't about snacks anymore.

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A few commenters did not hold back.

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The reactions kept leaning the same way.

It’s a lot like the debate over confronting a coworker for stealing office snacks.

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By this point, the verdict was looking pretty obvious.

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Wondering if refusing to share with your new coworker crossed the line? Read this AITA case about refusing office snacks to a new coworker.