Jobs That Are Relationship Deal-Breakers, According To Redditors

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Published in Interesting
October 14, 2024

Jobs That Are Relationship Deal-Breakers, According To Redditors

We all have that one deal-breaker in relationships that we just can't compromise on. Common red flags often include disrespectful treatment of restaurant staff, lack of honesty, or a history of infidelity.

Yet, for some, the deal-breaker goes beyond personality or behavior. It is about what the person does for a living.

There are certain jobs that can be an immediate turn-off for people seeking a serious relationship. Apparently, the job you do tells a lot about you.

But it also affects your life and the life of a potential partner. So, some people take everything into account about you and your everyday routine before even considering you as dating material.

Recently, a Redditor posed an intriguing question, "Which jobs are an instant deal-breaker for you in a committed relationship?" The responses were quite revealing.

People opened their souls and shared which professions make them feel insecure for some reason. Each of these jobs brought its own unique problems, from lifestyle challenges to perceived personality traits.

Take a scroll through these answers and see if your profession made the cut.

Influencer

"If your full-time gig is selling detox teas and promoting pyramid schemes, I’m out.

Bonus red flag if "hustle culture" is your religion."

"Anyone who peddles MLM products and services. It totally wrecked my marriage. My ex appears to be happily remarried to someone who was in his downline."

Firefighters

"As a retired firefighter/paramedic, I'd say firefighters. It seems like lots of women in their 20's think dating/marrying a firefighter is like some kind of fantasy dream.

The truth is we work 24 hour shifts and a large part of the time on our days off all we do is sleep. The schedule and the amount of calls just beat your body to hell.

So many folks go into the fire service looking like a Greek god or goddess, but ten, twenty years later they're just broken and beat up with chronic knee pain and back pain and hearing loss. This is all aside from the serious trauma they deal with which so much of the time we can't even talk about because few people want to hear it.

Lots of jobs take a physical toll, lots of jobs take a mental toll, but very few jobs take the physical AND mental toll that being a first responder does."

Cops

"Clown, I don't need the competition."

Military service members

Stand up comedians

"Weird work hours and locations. Whole months away for fringe festivals.

Casual alcohol, d**g use, infidelity. Worst of all: Anthing that happens in your relationship will be made public if they think they can make it funny/interesting."

Farmer

"Volatile income due to many external factors you can’t control, high rates of depression/suicide and all the ugliness that comes from mental health challenges, inability to get away, and just an overall doom and gloom mindset.

It may feel idyllic at first or the rare year things go well, but overall it’s just one crisis after another. I say that as a former farmer."

Chef

"I have nothing against chefs. But, a lot of people think that dating a chef means he will cook for you all the time, you kinda romanticize his job - but it's actually the opposite.

Cooking is work, and we don't like to bring work home with us. His hours are s**t.

Weekends, holidays, nights. You want to all have Thanksgiving as a family?

That might not be the case if you're in a serious relationship/marriage with a chef. Also, artists.

I say this as someone who paints (I don't like to say I'm an "artist") so I might be a major hypocrite here. But there is something about the art world that draws some of the most self-centered people on earth."

Entrepeneur

Bartending

"Bartending. You miss all events because you're working nights, other events, or at the event

Edit: ps I'm a bartender, this is what my most recent ex and I said as she also used to be industry."

Truck drivers

"For me truck drivers. My dad is one and I see how my mom hates missing him.

She loves him loving his job, but hates not seeing him…."

"The amount of cheating in the flight and cabin crew world is wild."

"Any job with big hours or that's dangerous. I had a workaholic parent and I promised myself I'll never have a workaholic as a partner."

"I had a friend who worked at a funeral home for 10 years. He always said he would have better luck if he told women that he had been in prison for 10 years."

"I wouldn’t date anyone in the sex industry."

Any job?

"Attorney. Dated one for 6 years. The constant competition killed it for me."

Brokers

"Brokers— any kind of broker. Real estate, insurance, investment.

They’re always networking. Their goals are all sales oriented.

And the number of people in these fields who then devolve into treating their personal relationships as transactional is too damn high."

A seafarer

"Based on experience cause I'm currently a seafarer. Long contracts and lack of reliable cell services can be a burden.

Aside from those there is also the stigma if you date a seafarer chances are they are getting laid every time we arrive at ports. Like wtf, its not that there are lines of women waiting for us outside the port area.

Most of my time is spent looking at the sea and finding a reliable and stable cell service."

"Friend of mine dated a chef, she now advises anyone who will listen to never date one. She says you never seen them."

A male teacher

"Hey baby, how’d you like to date a male teacher? I have to work evenings and weekends to keep up with an unreasonable workload.

I’m cranky because I deal with social issues and don’t get mental health support to process witnessed or second-hand trauma. There’s a pretty good statistical chance I won’t break six figures until I’m in my late 50s or early 60s, my pay doesn’t match inflation, and there’s a social perception that I’m in teaching cause I’m a pervert.

Baby? Where are you going?

Stop running girl, I help build up my community! Why you throwing Starbucks gift cards at me!?”

Yeah, there’s a reason I’ve only dated fellow educators."

"When I grew up, the local fish mongers assistant just could not get a date. My sisters joked that he was the last man on earth to date as no matter how he washed, the fish smell lingered."

"Surgeons, I listen to them complain about their wives and kids during surgery."

"People in the army…."

"Judging from what I see with celebrities, definitely being an actor/actress."

"Only Fans."

"Probably any that involve risking your life and not being home for long periods."

"Investment bankers. Arrogant and always working. 2 of them told me their sex drive is dead."

Personal trainers

"As a personal trainer; Personal Trainers.

You're not horny, you're just exercising. Leave your PT alone.

They're completely different outside the gym, and often are very boring people."

"Anything that requires spending a long time apart."

"I wouldn’t date a Pilot, flight attendant, military etc. These are also the people who are notorious for cheating on their spouses.

EDIT: Also MINERS, the next town over is a mining town with a population of 23,000 and they were so horny that the men would pool their money together and fly out prostitutes from the nearest city and use the women for a long weekend and then fly them back. I forgot how gross miners can be.

So glad I moved away from that place. That town was truly the a*****e of Australia.

Just a dirty town that made you feel like you were in the gutter. It had that underlying feeling that there was something sinister below the surface. Pls don’t ask me what town, I don’t want anyone finding out my location.

EDIT 2: There was also a FaceBook page called the “*** Mines Cheaters” which caused chaos, broke relationships, tore families apart and ruined the lives of the kids of those families. It got shut down but a lot of men and women were outed as cheaters on that page. It was a clusterfuck."

Police

"Pilots and Flight Attendants. Irregular hours and long periods away from home can make maintaining a stable relationship challenging."

"My friend once dated an “ethical hacker”. He was so “ethical” that he also checked all her messages for her so she didn’t have to do it!"

"‘Entrepreneur’ with 8 side-hustles"

Military, police, firemen

Cargo ship or such

Film and tv worker

Engineers?

Nurses

Working opposite schedules

This Reddit discussion was truly revealing. Is your job on the list?

If it is, do you agree with these POVs, or do you see things differently? Anyway, these deal-breaker jobs tell us more about what we value most in relationships.

So, if you suspect your job is affecting your dating life, maybe it's time to consider changing it.