Redditors Descend On Woman For Telling Ex's Wealthy Parents To "Tone Down" Gifts To Their Kids

Everyone involved in a separation or divorce experiences extreme stress and emotion, but children can feel as though their entire world has fallen apart. Seeing your parents' marriage fail and the family disintegrate can be upsetting at any age.

Children may experience astonishment, uncertainty, or rage. Some people can even feel bad because they blame themselves for the issues at home.

Divorce is never a smooth process, and there will always be some pain and difficulty during this period of adjustment. However, if you put your kids' welfare first, you can significantly lessen their suffering.

This is what the grandparents in this story were trying to do, but the OP was oblivious to it. According to the OP, her ex and his family are veeeeeeeeeery wealthy with the emphasis on the "very."

Well, the OP isn't wealthy, so her children will always experience two dramatically different lifestyles. The OP wants to make navigating that easier on them now that her oldest is reaching an age where he’s noticing and understands there’s a gap between the two sides of his family.

The OP talked to her ex about the wealth gap, and this is also what caused them to break up. OP's ex told her to stay out of it, but what did she do next?

She took her concerns to the ex's parents. Read the full story below to find out all that transpired.

The OP writes...

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The ex's parents are a big source of the extravagant gifts and fancy surprise trips

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OP's ex thinks she overstepped and claims she has no right to interfere

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. I spoke to my ex’s parents directly because my ex and I weren’t coming to an agreement. 2. I spoke to them behind my ex’s back and I asked them to tone down things when I knew my ex was against it.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

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The OP doesn't want her children to enjoy nice things?

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The OP is only being insecure

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It's the OP's ego that is the problem

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What the OP is doing isn't fair to her kids

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The OP needs to get rid of her jealousy

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If OP's kids aren't acting spoilt or entitled, then there shouldn't be a problem

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Some Redditors say the OP ought to be glad for her kids instead of complaining or making disparaging remarks to encourage them to keep talking to her. It's crucial that her kids don't shut up for fear of hurting her and making her feel bad about what their father and his family do for them.

If the OP doesn't change, her kids will notice her bitterness and their adulthood may be a misery as they start to favor their father and the simpler life they had with him. And yes, the OP was declared the AH.