Redditors Descend On Woman For Telling Ex's Wealthy Parents To "Tone Down" Gifts To Their Kids

A 28-year-old woman didn’t just get into a disagreement with her ex, she went straight to the source, his wealthy parents.

Here’s the messy part: the ex’s parents are the ones funding the extravagant surprises, fancy trips, and nonstop “just because” stuff. Her ex told her she overstepped by interfering, while the OP admitted she spoke to the parents directly, behind her ex’s back, and asked them to tone it down because her ex wasn’t on board.

Now the comments are split, some people think she’s protecting her kids, others think she’s jealous and controlling, and the family dinner energy is basically still burning.

The OP writes...

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The ex's parents are a big source of the extravagant gifts and fancy surprise trips

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OP's ex thinks she overstepped and claims she has no right to interfere

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The second the OP tells Reddit she contacted the ex’s parents directly, everyone immediately starts side-eyeing her motives instead of the gifts.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1. I spoke to my ex’s parents directly because my ex and I weren’t coming to an agreement. 2. I spoke to them behind my ex’s back and I asked them to tone down things when I knew my ex was against it.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

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The OP doesn't want her children to enjoy nice things?

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This is the same kind of judgment call as the friend who refused to lend money while their friend was in need.

The OP is only being insecure

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It's the OP's ego that is the problem

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What the OP is doing isn't fair to her kids

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The OP needs to get rid of her jealousy

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If OP's kids aren't acting spoilt or entitled, then there shouldn't be a problem

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When she admits she did it behind her ex’s back to “tone down” the fancy trips, the whole situation stops sounding neutral fast.

People zero in on whether her kids are actually acting entitled, because the OP’s request hinges on behavior, not just money.

And then that comment about the kids eventually favoring their dad for the “simpler life” makes the OP look like she might be creating a bigger problem than she’s solving.

Some Redditors say the OP ought to be glad for her kids instead of complaining or making disparaging remarks to encourage them to keep talking to her. It's crucial that her kids don't shut up for fear of hurting her and making her feel bad about what their father and his family do for them.

If the OP doesn't change, her kids will notice her bitterness and their adulthood may be a misery as they start to favor their father and the simpler life they had with him. And yes, the OP was declared the AH.

The OP might think she’s setting boundaries, but the comments are convinced she’s starting a family war.

For another “crossed a line” dispute, see what happened when a neighbor rehomed a cat secretly after property damage.