Roommate Confused After Being Asked To Pay Extra For Utilities For Having His GF And Her Child Most Nights Of The Week

"My roommate says that my gf doesn't pay rent or utilities, so she shouldn't be there and that we need to set strict rules on how often she is over."

Ayoub

• Published in Interesting
• November 24, 2022

Living with a roommate can be a wonderful experience or an absolute nightmare. It all depends on the kind of people to end up living with. 

Even if you choose the closest people in your life to be your roommates, the situation can still turn into a living nightmare. Living with someone full-time is completely different from casually hanging out with them or even spending considerable amounts of time around them.

Boundaries are crucial when it comes to living with one or multiple roommates. There needs to be a clear understanding between all roommates that some boundaries should never be crossed. 

Inviting people over to your room while living with roommates is quite common; it's mostly tolerated unless the person indirectly ends up moving into the room. Once a friend or significant other starts spending a lot of time in the apartment or house, the expenses for the different utilities can increase substantially.

A Redditor who later deleted his account made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where he explained how his roommate complained about him having his GF and daughter over most of the time. Scroll down to check out the full Reddit post, and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post.

Here's the original post by a Reddit user who later deleted his account:

OP's roommate has been having issues with his GF staying over.

The roommate was concerned about the utilities the GF uses.

The daughter's GF also spends the night 4 to 5 times each week.

OP eventually modified the post to include a "Note" with more context about the situation.

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to the user's post:

The place OP describes seems too magical to be true.

There's no way the difference is that low.

The GF's kid needs stability in her life.

Kids completely change everything regardless of their behavior.

The roommate never signed up to live with that many people.

It's entirely unfair for the roommate to constantly have that many people over.

OP's behavior is unreasonable and potentially breaks the lease.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

OP and his GF need to get their own place.

That kind of life is rough on a kid.

"Your poor roommate and that poor child."

OP didn't discuss this arrangement with his roommate beforehand.

OP's roommate has the right to live in her home comfortably.

That is no way for a child to live and grow.

What OP is doing is not only unfair but also illegal.

The roommate has every right to complain. OP is obviously downplaying the situation and trying to make it seem normal. You can't force two people into someone's daily life and expect them to be okay with that.

The GF's child needs stability in her life and shouldn't be sleeping on an air mattress most days of the week. If you enjoyed reading this, make sure to check out similar content on our platform.

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