Generous Aunt Gifted Both Nieces During One's B'Day, Gets Accused Of Ruining B'Day And Instructed To Redirect The Younger Niece's Present To Her

"She instructed me to take the toy from L and give it to K"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• November 27, 2023

Presents are people's way of saying that they care for someone and appreciate them. Whether they are simple, handmade items or luxury purchases, each carries its unique message and sentiment, always symbolizing the same - love.

In many cultures, presents are a central element of celebrations like birthdays, weddings, and holidays. But, believe it or not, people can get mad over receiving presents too, like in this story.

The OP said she has two nieces, K, seven years old, and L, three. Recently, K celebrated her birthday, and her mother organized a party for the occasion.

The OP brought two wrapped gifts for K and gave them to the party. Later, while K was playing, the OP gave an unwrapped toy to L, a smaller, age-appropriate item.

However, when K saw her sister with the toy, she mistakenly assumed L had taken one of her birthday presents. The OP explained that the toy was specifically for L, which upset K.

She threw her birthday crown and ran off crying to complain to her mother that the OP had given her birthday present to L. The OP's sister disapproved of the OP for giving L a gift on K's birthday, saying the day was to celebrate K.

The OP defended her actions, mentioning an early departure the following morning and a desire not to forget the gift for L. However, the sister insisted the OP take the toy from L and give it to K to calm her, as she was about to cut her birthday cake and take photos.

The OP was hesitant because K had already received multiple gifts. Despite this, the sister argued that reassigning the toy to K was the best solution, promising to compensate L with a new toy the next day.

This decision led to L crying, and the OP had to take her upstairs to console her. The OP feels remorseful, as the intention was to make both nieces happy, but the outcome was both nieces ending up in tears.

OP asks:

OP explained that she bought two gifts, one for the birthday girl and the other for another niece:

But, when the birthday girl learned her sister was getting presents on her day, she became upset:

The OP's sister instructed her to take L's present and give it to the birthday girl:

The OP didn't want to do so, but eventually, she complied:

The OP wanted to make both girls happy, but both of them ended up in tears:

One Redditor explained that this was a parent's failure, not the auntie's

The birthday girl is spoiled

One Redditor said the OP was wrong because she didn't ask for the parent's permission to give the present to the other niece

"You made a little girl cry at her own party."

"This is clearly an ongoing issue."

It could have been the perfect teaching moment

"This sort of tantrum should be corrected, not encouraged."

Even though many Redditors told the OP that she was wrong for giving a present to her niece on another niece's birthday, more of them agreed that her sister needs to teach them not to be jealous of each other. It was the perfect teaching moment, and the sister handled it poorly.

Filip